There are times we need to help out. We are their parents, after all. But the thing is we do it for us, not them. Just as they do what they do for themselves, or not. I think the only risk for you is expectation, that there is tit for tat.
You help out because you want to. At the end of the story that's all there is. We have no control. The pain comes from believing that there is.
