Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Substance Abuse
Playing my hand...need some backup
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember1" data-source="post: 750078" data-attributes="member: 23706"><p>We will never be the one who pushes our kids to change. I finally accept this. I hear it from the large Al Anon groups who struggle with addicted spouses and children I can finally act on what Al Anon says and work on myself, not Kay. I see that the only thing that changes our kids is their desire to change and to stop using. Not using is the bottom line be it an addiction to pot, alcohol or drugs that have scarier names.</p><p></p><p>I held off telling you folks this story out of fear that it would be scary to some, but now I will. Its one of those good/bad stories.</p><p></p><p> We had neighbors who were very high functioning, successful drug addicts. We moved and didnt see them but had to move back to that city again and saw the woman in a grocery store. She looked healthy and beautiful.</p><p></p><p>We hugged and she told me she has been clean ten years, is remarried, and her daughter just had her first grandchild. I was so happy for her. Then I asked about her ex.</p><p></p><p>He is dead. Drug overdose. Their son is a drug addict too.</p><p></p><p>What made her quit and him not? She was suddenly sick of herself and motivated. Her words. She habd two kids who were teens and she wanted to show them that drugs were not the way. She left her ex and quit without anyone pushing her. Her daughter is doing great.</p><p></p><p>Her ex never quit completely in spite of havimg a good job and a great extended family. Eventually he was fired from his job and his new girlfriend left him and he went on a binge and died. I didnt ask what drug. I was actually just listening. I expressed sadness and she shrugged and said "He wouldn't quit. I tried to tell him..."</p><p></p><p>The boy child is now a man and following Dad. She doesn't see him or bail him out of jail. She hopes he quits. So far he hasn't. But she wont "help" him like she tried so hard to do with her ex. She feels it is useless. So if he goes to jail or need money, she says no. So he doesn't talk to her. He knows she WILL help him with rehab, but not while he is not showing the intention of quitting. He is intermittently homeless. I think he is now 26 or so.</p><p></p><p>So that os my story for the day. Be well.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember1, post: 750078, member: 23706"] We will never be the one who pushes our kids to change. I finally accept this. I hear it from the large Al Anon groups who struggle with addicted spouses and children I can finally act on what Al Anon says and work on myself, not Kay. I see that the only thing that changes our kids is their desire to change and to stop using. Not using is the bottom line be it an addiction to pot, alcohol or drugs that have scarier names. I held off telling you folks this story out of fear that it would be scary to some, but now I will. Its one of those good/bad stories. We had neighbors who were very high functioning, successful drug addicts. We moved and didnt see them but had to move back to that city again and saw the woman in a grocery store. She looked healthy and beautiful. We hugged and she told me she has been clean ten years, is remarried, and her daughter just had her first grandchild. I was so happy for her. Then I asked about her ex. He is dead. Drug overdose. Their son is a drug addict too. What made her quit and him not? She was suddenly sick of herself and motivated. Her words. She habd two kids who were teens and she wanted to show them that drugs were not the way. She left her ex and quit without anyone pushing her. Her daughter is doing great. Her ex never quit completely in spite of havimg a good job and a great extended family. Eventually he was fired from his job and his new girlfriend left him and he went on a binge and died. I didnt ask what drug. I was actually just listening. I expressed sadness and she shrugged and said "He wouldn't quit. I tried to tell him..." The boy child is now a man and following Dad. She doesn't see him or bail him out of jail. She hopes he quits. So far he hasn't. But she wont "help" him like she tried so hard to do with her ex. She feels it is useless. So if he goes to jail or need money, she says no. So he doesn't talk to her. He knows she WILL help him with rehab, but not while he is not showing the intention of quitting. He is intermittently homeless. I think he is now 26 or so. So that os my story for the day. Be well. [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Substance Abuse
Playing my hand...need some backup
Top