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Playing my hand...need some backup
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<blockquote data-quote="WhyDoWeFallBruce?" data-source="post: 751409" data-attributes="member: 24405"><p>My son never asks me for money, now. I have once made him a small loan (100$), with a written guarantee and a set date for payback. Then he had a job, so it was an easy deal. Now I don´t lend or give him any. It is not always an easy thing. I am his dad and want to be there for him and under a different sky, I might have another view. But after I learned of his addiction, it actually became easier. Since then, should he ask, I´ll tell him to get a job and see the money come in by his own hands. </p><p>His mom has made many of those "if you do this, then.." kinda loans to him. She never saw any of that money again. </p><p>All he learned was that it is possible to get someone to pay if you just ask hard enough. </p><p>With me, not in a million years. And he knows that.</p><p></p><p>It´s a value, I cannot compromise on. </p><p></p><p>Should he ever come around, later in life, having learned his own lessons and seeing the greatness in taking responsibility, I ´ll be happy for him. </p><p></p><p>I am with the others on this one; give him the § for yourself. Or don´t, also for yourself. </p><p></p><p>Try not to expect anything.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="WhyDoWeFallBruce?, post: 751409, member: 24405"] My son never asks me for money, now. I have once made him a small loan (100$), with a written guarantee and a set date for payback. Then he had a job, so it was an easy deal. Now I don´t lend or give him any. It is not always an easy thing. I am his dad and want to be there for him and under a different sky, I might have another view. But after I learned of his addiction, it actually became easier. Since then, should he ask, I´ll tell him to get a job and see the money come in by his own hands. His mom has made many of those "if you do this, then.." kinda loans to him. She never saw any of that money again. All he learned was that it is possible to get someone to pay if you just ask hard enough. With me, not in a million years. And he knows that. It´s a value, I cannot compromise on. Should he ever come around, later in life, having learned his own lessons and seeing the greatness in taking responsibility, I ´ll be happy for him. I am with the others on this one; give him the § for yourself. Or don´t, also for yourself. Try not to expect anything. [/QUOTE]
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