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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 359934" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Why don't you tell your husband that if she stays he has to take her fishing. She goes back or goes with him? </p><p></p><p>I guess I don't understand your group home. Here group homes are where kids live and they are there full time. They don't go back and forth to home the way your daughter is. Can you explain the situation so I understand it more clearly?</p><p></p><p>She doesn't seem to be able to be at home with-o a rage. in my opinion she needs to go stay at the group home 24/7 except when she is home for a few weeks/months until she can be appropriate on visits at the home (you go there) and then be appropriate on SHORT visits at home. NO way should she have the power to go back and forth.</p><p></p><p>She really NEEDS a full evaluation and treatment. this is NOT going to get better otherwise. Isn't she the one who pooped in the garbage can? That is a HUGE red flag for many many serious disorders. I have yet to know a person who defecated somewhere other than a toilet//outhouse who did not have a MAJOR problem. in my opinion this is way past ODD or adhd. Not at all sure what it is, but you NEED to get a neuropsychologist to do lots of testing or get a multidisciplinary evaluation for her. MDE's are done at major hospitals here (univ hospitals or children's hospitals). You have to find some way to figure this out, otherwise there is NO hope to help her. NONE.</p><p></p><p>I am so sorry you have to deal with this and with your husband trying to buy into her act so that you get few breaks. If he insists she stay the night, wake her up and take her to the group home when you get off work. That way you could get some sleep.</p><p></p><p>on the other hand, I am curious about the suicide threats. What do you do when she does that? Have you tried taking her to the hospital or calling for police to help transport a mentally ill child who is threatening suicide? Have a video of her as she says it if possible, or of her tantrum as a whole. It might be another way to get services or to inconvenience difficult child so that she stops.</p><p></p><p>Maybe making her sit in the ER waiting room and then in a room for hours and hours and hours waiting for the psychiatric consult would be enough inconvenience to make her stop saying that??? Just a thought. The suicide threats would put me over the line. I might offer to make it come true for her. But I wouldn't say it out loud. </p><p></p><p>Whatever happens, try to be nice to yourself. Give yourself a treat, even if it is only reading a magazine or a few pages of a book while you are in the bathroom. (I have been know to sneak a book and a snack into the bathroom just to have a break in peace!)</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 359934, member: 1233"] Why don't you tell your husband that if she stays he has to take her fishing. She goes back or goes with him? I guess I don't understand your group home. Here group homes are where kids live and they are there full time. They don't go back and forth to home the way your daughter is. Can you explain the situation so I understand it more clearly? She doesn't seem to be able to be at home with-o a rage. in my opinion she needs to go stay at the group home 24/7 except when she is home for a few weeks/months until she can be appropriate on visits at the home (you go there) and then be appropriate on SHORT visits at home. NO way should she have the power to go back and forth. She really NEEDS a full evaluation and treatment. this is NOT going to get better otherwise. Isn't she the one who pooped in the garbage can? That is a HUGE red flag for many many serious disorders. I have yet to know a person who defecated somewhere other than a toilet//outhouse who did not have a MAJOR problem. in my opinion this is way past ODD or adhd. Not at all sure what it is, but you NEED to get a neuropsychologist to do lots of testing or get a multidisciplinary evaluation for her. MDE's are done at major hospitals here (univ hospitals or children's hospitals). You have to find some way to figure this out, otherwise there is NO hope to help her. NONE. I am so sorry you have to deal with this and with your husband trying to buy into her act so that you get few breaks. If he insists she stay the night, wake her up and take her to the group home when you get off work. That way you could get some sleep. on the other hand, I am curious about the suicide threats. What do you do when she does that? Have you tried taking her to the hospital or calling for police to help transport a mentally ill child who is threatening suicide? Have a video of her as she says it if possible, or of her tantrum as a whole. It might be another way to get services or to inconvenience difficult child so that she stops. Maybe making her sit in the ER waiting room and then in a room for hours and hours and hours waiting for the psychiatric consult would be enough inconvenience to make her stop saying that??? Just a thought. The suicide threats would put me over the line. I might offer to make it come true for her. But I wouldn't say it out loud. Whatever happens, try to be nice to yourself. Give yourself a treat, even if it is only reading a magazine or a few pages of a book while you are in the bathroom. (I have been know to sneak a book and a snack into the bathroom just to have a break in peace!) [/QUOTE]
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