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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 123972" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>It IS confusing. That's why there generally isn't a neat, always-correct answer. And when we make a choice of options, we have to be prepared to change our minds if later evidence shows we made a wrong choice. We also have to not assign blame when this happens - it's best to save our energies for dealing with what we have to deal with TODAY. Looking ahead to try to prepare for all the "what if"s is good, but sometimes the "now" is all we have the energy for. The past - it's useless, unless it can give us clues to help us in the now, or the future. Otherwise - forget it and move on.</p><p></p><p>This isn't easy - as a society we tend to focus on blame, as if assigning blame is going to mean that the bad thing never happened. </p><p></p><p>While we stand in the kitchen arguing over who spilt the milk, it's seeping through the floorboards because nobody is mopping it up.</p><p></p><p>I hope this situation can be sorted with time, compassion and a loving, watchful eye.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 123972, member: 1991"] It IS confusing. That's why there generally isn't a neat, always-correct answer. And when we make a choice of options, we have to be prepared to change our minds if later evidence shows we made a wrong choice. We also have to not assign blame when this happens - it's best to save our energies for dealing with what we have to deal with TODAY. Looking ahead to try to prepare for all the "what if"s is good, but sometimes the "now" is all we have the energy for. The past - it's useless, unless it can give us clues to help us in the now, or the future. Otherwise - forget it and move on. This isn't easy - as a society we tend to focus on blame, as if assigning blame is going to mean that the bad thing never happened. While we stand in the kitchen arguing over who spilt the milk, it's seeping through the floorboards because nobody is mopping it up. I hope this situation can be sorted with time, compassion and a loving, watchful eye. Marg [/QUOTE]
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