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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 403644" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Janet has not only good advice but an excellent handle on these things in NC. Sadly I do not think this is limited to NC, rather it is at least nationwide, if not worldwide. Still, there comes a point when you can say enough and insist that he is too dangerous to live at home. If you are not able to pay for Residential Treatment Center (RTC) by yourself or get a loan to pay for it, you have terribly terribly few treatment options. At the point when you have to save the rest of the kids from him because things are simply too dangerous for him to stay at home, you can turn him over to social services. I do NOT NOT NOT suggest this lightly, nor am I saying that you should go ahead and do it. It is an option that is available. It won't be fun, you likely will NOT have choices for where he goes or if he gets treatment once there. You will have to pay child support based on your income. His father will also have to pay child support (at that point the state will likely help with enforcing support if that has been an issue, but even then they likely won't do much, grrrrrr). It is HIGLY probably that he will be sent to his father's to live unless it can be proven that the man is an unfit parent or he just flat out refuses to accept him. The state will likely search for other relatives who might take him also. </p><p> </p><p>What really really HOOVERS is taht the few parents I know of who have had to go to this extreme wound up with a TON of services, esp if they didn't immediately let the child come home. Once the child stops honeymooning and starts showing his difficult child stripes the social workers start to actually pay some attention to the reports that the child has problems or is disturbed and doors open. Then if the child is reunited with the parents they still have many of those services. This is infuriating because the entire placement upheaval, etc... could be avoided or eliminated if those services were offered BEFORE a child got to the point that the family had to refuse to let him live at home!!!!</p><p> </p><p>This an OPTION. More of a last resort when nothing else has worked or is available/doable no matter how hard you work. I don't know if you are at this point or not, no one here can because we don't live with your family. There is no shame in considering this option, and you do always have to keep in mind the effects of the gfgness on the other kids and the family as a whole. </p><p> </p><p> </p><p>I ho</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 403644, member: 1233"] Janet has not only good advice but an excellent handle on these things in NC. Sadly I do not think this is limited to NC, rather it is at least nationwide, if not worldwide. Still, there comes a point when you can say enough and insist that he is too dangerous to live at home. If you are not able to pay for Residential Treatment Center (RTC) by yourself or get a loan to pay for it, you have terribly terribly few treatment options. At the point when you have to save the rest of the kids from him because things are simply too dangerous for him to stay at home, you can turn him over to social services. I do NOT NOT NOT suggest this lightly, nor am I saying that you should go ahead and do it. It is an option that is available. It won't be fun, you likely will NOT have choices for where he goes or if he gets treatment once there. You will have to pay child support based on your income. His father will also have to pay child support (at that point the state will likely help with enforcing support if that has been an issue, but even then they likely won't do much, grrrrrr). It is HIGLY probably that he will be sent to his father's to live unless it can be proven that the man is an unfit parent or he just flat out refuses to accept him. The state will likely search for other relatives who might take him also. What really really HOOVERS is taht the few parents I know of who have had to go to this extreme wound up with a TON of services, esp if they didn't immediately let the child come home. Once the child stops honeymooning and starts showing his difficult child stripes the social workers start to actually pay some attention to the reports that the child has problems or is disturbed and doors open. Then if the child is reunited with the parents they still have many of those services. This is infuriating because the entire placement upheaval, etc... could be avoided or eliminated if those services were offered BEFORE a child got to the point that the family had to refuse to let him live at home!!!! This an OPTION. More of a last resort when nothing else has worked or is available/doable no matter how hard you work. I don't know if you are at this point or not, no one here can because we don't live with your family. There is no shame in considering this option, and you do always have to keep in mind the effects of the gfgness on the other kids and the family as a whole. I ho [/QUOTE]
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