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<blockquote data-quote="busywend" data-source="post: 386808" data-attributes="member: 391"><p>Welcome! It is painfully obvious to us all that the doctor's have not stepped up on your friend's son's case. He needs to be evaluated and this has to be taken seriously. What specialist? I have no idea, but a Children's Hospital is a good place to start. Get a journal of all events together. </p><p> </p><p>As far as the ' poor little brown boy '...</p><p>My difficult child has had to deal with alot having a white mom and a black father. More than I will ever know. Some of it is within herself. Some is external and really happens. </p><p>The thing is, I always thought I raised her to not feel 'different' or not care what color anyone was...but it did bother her in some way. It is still not clear to me what she thinks or feels about it. But, you can not just assume there is no issue there. IF he is the only brown child in town - don't you think that would make him feel different? Even if not one soul treated him different - the color of his skin is different so I can only imagine there is a feeling of being different. I think my difficult child thought she was different due to being molatto. She was not black or white. </p><p> </p><p>So, while I agree with Trinity that he should not be held to any different standards, I do think you have to be aware that he may have feelings of being different than others around him. Even in the home where you have loved him and made him part of the family....he is still different. Even if all the children are adopted....he is different than them - and each of those kids could feel different for a number of reasons. Just don't discount it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="busywend, post: 386808, member: 391"] Welcome! It is painfully obvious to us all that the doctor's have not stepped up on your friend's son's case. He needs to be evaluated and this has to be taken seriously. What specialist? I have no idea, but a Children's Hospital is a good place to start. Get a journal of all events together. As far as the ' poor little brown boy '... My difficult child has had to deal with alot having a white mom and a black father. More than I will ever know. Some of it is within herself. Some is external and really happens. The thing is, I always thought I raised her to not feel 'different' or not care what color anyone was...but it did bother her in some way. It is still not clear to me what she thinks or feels about it. But, you can not just assume there is no issue there. IF he is the only brown child in town - don't you think that would make him feel different? Even if not one soul treated him different - the color of his skin is different so I can only imagine there is a feeling of being different. I think my difficult child thought she was different due to being molatto. She was not black or white. So, while I agree with Trinity that he should not be held to any different standards, I do think you have to be aware that he may have feelings of being different than others around him. Even in the home where you have loved him and made him part of the family....he is still different. Even if all the children are adopted....he is different than them - and each of those kids could feel different for a number of reasons. Just don't discount it. [/QUOTE]
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