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<blockquote data-quote="Farmwife" data-source="post: 386829" data-attributes="member: 8617"><p>It looks like people covered a lot of bases here; PWS, Fetal Alcohol Syndrome (FAS), Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD), other physical or mental impairments...all good places to look at and at least rule out. I just want to ditto getting as full of a work up as you can possibly schedule and what you can't pay for get from whatever agency you can.</p><p> </p><p>As for my own stab in the dark...</p><p> </p><p>Was he put in foster care for 9 months, immediately after birth or did he spend anytime with birth family? Was the foster family a good family or one of those horror story families?</p><p> </p><p>Although he is small now, is he growing at the right rate? Did he start out small and just never got up to speed so to speak? </p><p> </p><p>The reason I ask and again just a stab in the dark...</p><p> </p><p>Was he ever malnourished before you got him? That could affect growth considerably if it occurs in the first year of life (9 months in his case). The biggest percentage of growth is the first year and then it slows down considerably. Being deprived of food by an abusive or neglectful parent can have a huge impact on long term size potential.</p><p> </p><p>Likewise, a severly underfed baby could easily develop life long emotional issues with food that can lead to binging, hoarding and aggression around food. I'm just basing that idea on the Freudian philosophy, "oral stage", not a popular concept anymore but you get the idea. Anyway, to be deprived of food in the very early oral stage seems to me that it could have major ramifications.</p><p> </p><p>If his care givers/birth family were addicts it is not uncommon for babies to be left alone in cribs for many hours and sometimes even a day or more with just a bottle and a dirty diaper. Or, the baby could get the bare minimum of food to survive while Mom is high in another room, selling her wic formula for more drugs. There is some scary scary stuff that is done to kids out there...</p><p> </p><p>I'm not an expert, this isn't the most likely scenario. You were given lots of great ideas. I just had this pop in my mind and thought it may be worth mentioning.</p><p> </p><p>I've had a colorful life and seen a lot of stuff <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/surprise.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":surprise:" title="surprise :surprise:" data-shortname=":surprise:" /> so generally have a different perspective than most. <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/peaceful.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":peaceful:" title="peaceful :peaceful:" data-shortname=":peaceful:" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Farmwife, post: 386829, member: 8617"] It looks like people covered a lot of bases here; PWS, Fetal Alcohol Syndrome (FAS), Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD), other physical or mental impairments...all good places to look at and at least rule out. I just want to ditto getting as full of a work up as you can possibly schedule and what you can't pay for get from whatever agency you can. As for my own stab in the dark... Was he put in foster care for 9 months, immediately after birth or did he spend anytime with birth family? Was the foster family a good family or one of those horror story families? Although he is small now, is he growing at the right rate? Did he start out small and just never got up to speed so to speak? The reason I ask and again just a stab in the dark... Was he ever malnourished before you got him? That could affect growth considerably if it occurs in the first year of life (9 months in his case). The biggest percentage of growth is the first year and then it slows down considerably. Being deprived of food by an abusive or neglectful parent can have a huge impact on long term size potential. Likewise, a severly underfed baby could easily develop life long emotional issues with food that can lead to binging, hoarding and aggression around food. I'm just basing that idea on the Freudian philosophy, "oral stage", not a popular concept anymore but you get the idea. Anyway, to be deprived of food in the very early oral stage seems to me that it could have major ramifications. If his care givers/birth family were addicts it is not uncommon for babies to be left alone in cribs for many hours and sometimes even a day or more with just a bottle and a dirty diaper. Or, the baby could get the bare minimum of food to survive while Mom is high in another room, selling her wic formula for more drugs. There is some scary scary stuff that is done to kids out there... I'm not an expert, this isn't the most likely scenario. You were given lots of great ideas. I just had this pop in my mind and thought it may be worth mentioning. I've had a colorful life and seen a lot of stuff :surprised1: so generally have a different perspective than most. :peaceful: [/QUOTE]
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