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<blockquote data-quote="Nomad" data-source="post: 761645" data-attributes="member: 4152"><p>Agree with Busy.</p><p></p><p>Our extraordinarily difficult , manipulative , self destructive, throw us under the bus, self defeating and recently especially abusive daughter keeps telling us she is sleeping on the floor. Yawn. We replied “Well, that’s what can happen when you make poor choices.” She shut up.</p><p></p><p>Small analagy:</p><p>And, our son who is doing very well…but at times him and his wife behave a tad entitled and … ??? whatever. He often does not respond to my texts at ALL or for three days. And I don’t text often AT ALL. Her family texts very often and she responds very often even during time at our house.</p><p></p><p>I know this is small potatoes compared to what we are talking about here. If I mentioned it..he can get snarky. Wth? This is in the past. I’ve been reborn.</p><p></p><p>Recently, I calmly told him I dont text him unless it’s important. I try hard to return most texts from close friends or family within 12 hours or sooner and all within 24 hours. If it needs to be longer…I might send a short reply and respond more fully when I have more time. But that very rarely happens anyway. I also calmly, succinctly and factually mentioned something else they are doing towards us that is somewhat inappropriate. Factor in we gladly babysit for free snd help them out in various ways. Nothing abusive in the least. All loving snd we are happy to help out in any way we can. That is a gift. We are kind and I expect that in return. We expect to be treated appropriately and with respect. Perhaps he thought with his xxx sister out of the way…he had more leeway. I don't know.</p><p></p><p> He was super quiet. And all of the above stopped that VERY moment. Mutual respect is where it’s at. </p><p></p><p>Things are more pleasant around here.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nomad, post: 761645, member: 4152"] Agree with Busy. Our extraordinarily difficult , manipulative , self destructive, throw us under the bus, self defeating and recently especially abusive daughter keeps telling us she is sleeping on the floor. Yawn. We replied “Well, that’s what can happen when you make poor choices.” She shut up. Small analagy: And, our son who is doing very well…but at times him and his wife behave a tad entitled and … ??? whatever. He often does not respond to my texts at ALL or for three days. And I don’t text often AT ALL. Her family texts very often and she responds very often even during time at our house. I know this is small potatoes compared to what we are talking about here. If I mentioned it..he can get snarky. Wth? This is in the past. I’ve been reborn. Recently, I calmly told him I dont text him unless it’s important. I try hard to return most texts from close friends or family within 12 hours or sooner and all within 24 hours. If it needs to be longer…I might send a short reply and respond more fully when I have more time. But that very rarely happens anyway. I also calmly, succinctly and factually mentioned something else they are doing towards us that is somewhat inappropriate. Factor in we gladly babysit for free snd help them out in various ways. Nothing abusive in the least. All loving snd we are happy to help out in any way we can. That is a gift. We are kind and I expect that in return. We expect to be treated appropriately and with respect. Perhaps he thought with his xxx sister out of the way…he had more leeway. I don't know. He was super quiet. And all of the above stopped that VERY moment. Mutual respect is where it’s at. Things are more pleasant around here. [/QUOTE]
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