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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 110139" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Jamie, fight that "he can only have an aide for one year and he doesn't qualify" garbage. Post THAT on Spec. Ed 101. My son would never be at the level he's at without his aide, who taught him tons about how to focus, take notes, hone in on the Big Picture, etc. She was also in all his academic classes with him in case he needed to ask any questions, but she was actually a 1:3 aide. None of the other kids thought the aide was for him because he can pretty much "pass" for typical. When he was VERY young, he had Occupational Therapist (OT), PT and Social Skills and was placed in Special Education for certain classes because lots of stimulation, noise, distraction etc. made it hard for him to concentrate. This could have been misconstrued as ADHD, however the neuropsychologist we had (and I trust him--he was very thorough, and had worked at Mayo for ten years) told us that ADHD is just part and parcel of Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD). The kids are very aware of their senses and it distracts them; even a smell can distract them. My son slowly worked up to almost mainstream status. He loves his Special Education teacher whom he only sees for one period now, and is doing well in all the other classes too. Jamie, my son used to tantrum with the best of them, complete with headbanging and scratching his face. His room had nothing in it except soft toys and a bed because he'd whack his head on the dresser. He hasn't had one tantrum in almost nine years. The worst that happens now is he will slam a door or stamp his foot, but that's rare and he can be talked down by saying, "Ah, Lucas, please don't do that. I can't afford another door." He'll say "Sorry" even if he has tears in his eyes--he is such a good soul, probably the sweetest child in the universe. He did NOT start out that way. He was so frustrated by not being able to communicate well and by his lack of understanding of social skills and life skills that he lashed out. As soon as his communication skills improved, he stopped tantruming. It sounds like your son can speak, but has communication problems. My guess is that when he said, "When can I have a banana" he meant "when can I have another banana?" or "Can I have another banana?" and he just didn't know how to express it, which can drive our kids nutso. Speech alone does not equal competent communication skills.He may still need Speech to learn how to converse. Until he is tested, and you are told he DOES comprehend, I'd just treat his questions, that seem off-the-wall, as an inability to communicate what he REALLY wants to say to you and maybe help him along like, "Do you mean when can you have another banana?" I also wouldn't make straight "no" answers. I'd say, "In two hours." Some Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) children are extremely literal. My son wants to know EXACTLY how many hours until (fill in the blanks). </p><p> As our son gets older, he gets better, but he's been a steady work in progress. medications did not help him. In fact, stimulants made him more hyper and mean, and bipolar medications (he had a misdx.) made him cognitively dulled so that he couldn't learn as much. I think some psychiatrists are way too quick to medicate away every symptom a child has. Some kids need medications, but not all do. Some can be helped without them, like my son. Good luck :smile: Merry Christmas.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 110139, member: 1550"] Jamie, fight that "he can only have an aide for one year and he doesn't qualify" garbage. Post THAT on Spec. Ed 101. My son would never be at the level he's at without his aide, who taught him tons about how to focus, take notes, hone in on the Big Picture, etc. She was also in all his academic classes with him in case he needed to ask any questions, but she was actually a 1:3 aide. None of the other kids thought the aide was for him because he can pretty much "pass" for typical. When he was VERY young, he had Occupational Therapist (OT), PT and Social Skills and was placed in Special Education for certain classes because lots of stimulation, noise, distraction etc. made it hard for him to concentrate. This could have been misconstrued as ADHD, however the neuropsychologist we had (and I trust him--he was very thorough, and had worked at Mayo for ten years) told us that ADHD is just part and parcel of Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD). The kids are very aware of their senses and it distracts them; even a smell can distract them. My son slowly worked up to almost mainstream status. He loves his Special Education teacher whom he only sees for one period now, and is doing well in all the other classes too. Jamie, my son used to tantrum with the best of them, complete with headbanging and scratching his face. His room had nothing in it except soft toys and a bed because he'd whack his head on the dresser. He hasn't had one tantrum in almost nine years. The worst that happens now is he will slam a door or stamp his foot, but that's rare and he can be talked down by saying, "Ah, Lucas, please don't do that. I can't afford another door." He'll say "Sorry" even if he has tears in his eyes--he is such a good soul, probably the sweetest child in the universe. He did NOT start out that way. He was so frustrated by not being able to communicate well and by his lack of understanding of social skills and life skills that he lashed out. As soon as his communication skills improved, he stopped tantruming. It sounds like your son can speak, but has communication problems. My guess is that when he said, "When can I have a banana" he meant "when can I have another banana?" or "Can I have another banana?" and he just didn't know how to express it, which can drive our kids nutso. Speech alone does not equal competent communication skills.He may still need Speech to learn how to converse. Until he is tested, and you are told he DOES comprehend, I'd just treat his questions, that seem off-the-wall, as an inability to communicate what he REALLY wants to say to you and maybe help him along like, "Do you mean when can you have another banana?" I also wouldn't make straight "no" answers. I'd say, "In two hours." Some Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) children are extremely literal. My son wants to know EXACTLY how many hours until (fill in the blanks). As our son gets older, he gets better, but he's been a steady work in progress. medications did not help him. In fact, stimulants made him more hyper and mean, and bipolar medications (he had a misdx.) made him cognitively dulled so that he couldn't learn as much. I think some psychiatrists are way too quick to medicate away every symptom a child has. Some kids need medications, but not all do. Some can be helped without them, like my son. Good luck [img]:smile:[/img] Merry Christmas. [/QUOTE]
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