Janet, I'm also guilty of many things on that list.
I haven't yet been tested as you have been, but I do believe that I've become somewhat detached in the ten months since my son went into placement.
He's only been home for three days, so it's MUCH too early to tell, but I think, during the one mini-issue we had, I've at least begun to get the hang of not allowing myself to become sucked into his "stuff."
