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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 363105" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>Matts mom & Susie* </p><p> </p><p>The thought did occur to me very plainly that Dude is bored with where he is and it's time for a change. Change would involve making Mom feel sorry for him and then coming home defeated, promising a bevy of I will's...and me fall for it. However; I have not seen or heard anything since he left that would indicate to me that anything has changed about himself except he's getting a first hand, front row seat to what my life was like and why I chose to take my beloved son and leave. The drugs - in 16 years have only gotten worse. The booze, the woman beating - the explosive temper without remorse at all - still happening. </p><p> </p><p>The only good thing that may come out of this yet is that he gets "whatever it is, the rage, the anger" out of his system once and for all and if he were to come to see me - I'd see a completely different and calm person. I think the fist fight had been coming for a long time. A long time. I too was glad to 'hear' (but never see) that daughter was giving his son cash. I told you gals before I think that's what started all of this business - the friend that got back child support and went and got himself a monster truck - it was Dudes dream - and someone else was having it - and he HAD to get it at any cost.....certainly after 14 years that man had to have SOMETHING saved up for him? Right? So I could say - NO don't go until I'm blue in the face - but never did. I worried, I have anxiety over it - but I know I can't control anything that goes on there - Dude is 19 - even if he does think like a 1 year old - I do know he hates drugs. So that much I don't think is fabricated. And to live there with those people? Ugh - you'd have to have been there to understand better - but chewing your right arm off to get away was a viable option 14 years ago - and it hasn't improved since. </p><p> </p><p>I am sorry for him - I hate that he has to hurt. I hate that he thought daughter was going to be someone decent and good to him and then treated him like scum - but he is what he is - and the only way to not have people like that in your life is to leave. Now the phone has been disconnected - so I may not hear from him again and that's even more worrisome - but DF keeps asking me -"WHat are you going to do about it? Nothing." </p><p> </p><p>Being the parent of a difficult child is bad - Being the parent of a difficult child that you have no idea of whearabouts? Really bad. We'll get through. Thanks for the support. And especially the special angels. I feel better - really really.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 363105, member: 4964"] Matts mom & Susie* The thought did occur to me very plainly that Dude is bored with where he is and it's time for a change. Change would involve making Mom feel sorry for him and then coming home defeated, promising a bevy of I will's...and me fall for it. However; I have not seen or heard anything since he left that would indicate to me that anything has changed about himself except he's getting a first hand, front row seat to what my life was like and why I chose to take my beloved son and leave. The drugs - in 16 years have only gotten worse. The booze, the woman beating - the explosive temper without remorse at all - still happening. The only good thing that may come out of this yet is that he gets "whatever it is, the rage, the anger" out of his system once and for all and if he were to come to see me - I'd see a completely different and calm person. I think the fist fight had been coming for a long time. A long time. I too was glad to 'hear' (but never see) that daughter was giving his son cash. I told you gals before I think that's what started all of this business - the friend that got back child support and went and got himself a monster truck - it was Dudes dream - and someone else was having it - and he HAD to get it at any cost.....certainly after 14 years that man had to have SOMETHING saved up for him? Right? So I could say - NO don't go until I'm blue in the face - but never did. I worried, I have anxiety over it - but I know I can't control anything that goes on there - Dude is 19 - even if he does think like a 1 year old - I do know he hates drugs. So that much I don't think is fabricated. And to live there with those people? Ugh - you'd have to have been there to understand better - but chewing your right arm off to get away was a viable option 14 years ago - and it hasn't improved since. I am sorry for him - I hate that he has to hurt. I hate that he thought daughter was going to be someone decent and good to him and then treated him like scum - but he is what he is - and the only way to not have people like that in your life is to leave. Now the phone has been disconnected - so I may not hear from him again and that's even more worrisome - but DF keeps asking me -"WHat are you going to do about it? Nothing." Being the parent of a difficult child is bad - Being the parent of a difficult child that you have no idea of whearabouts? Really bad. We'll get through. Thanks for the support. And especially the special angels. I feel better - really really. [/QUOTE]
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