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<blockquote data-quote="CrazyinVA" data-source="post: 358364" data-attributes="member: 1157"><p>I've had a tough time staying out of my Youngest's relationship issues with her fiance. She tends to confide in me pretty often. I found myself immersed in their drama and obsessing over situations that truthfully, didn't have anything to do with me. Why was I carrying that stress on myself?! I had to step back, big time. </p><p></p><p>I think you're on the right path with detaching from this. We want what's best for our children, and we want to help, as mothers, and lend an ear and offer sage advice on certain situations, but honestly, but this for Nichole and her boyfriend to work out on their own. I finally had to tell Youngest that I'm her mother, not her therapist .. and while I could be there for her in certain situations, I could not get in the middle of her relationship drama any more. She'd have to find someone else to confide in about that, I couldn't take that on full-time. (I think Janet even gave me that advice on these boards, in fact). Oh, she still talks to me about it from time to time, but when I find her doing so too often, I have to remind her that it's too much.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="CrazyinVA, post: 358364, member: 1157"] I've had a tough time staying out of my Youngest's relationship issues with her fiance. She tends to confide in me pretty often. I found myself immersed in their drama and obsessing over situations that truthfully, didn't have anything to do with me. Why was I carrying that stress on myself?! I had to step back, big time. I think you're on the right path with detaching from this. We want what's best for our children, and we want to help, as mothers, and lend an ear and offer sage advice on certain situations, but honestly, but this for Nichole and her boyfriend to work out on their own. I finally had to tell Youngest that I'm her mother, not her therapist .. and while I could be there for her in certain situations, I could not get in the middle of her relationship drama any more. She'd have to find someone else to confide in about that, I couldn't take that on full-time. (I think Janet even gave me that advice on these boards, in fact). Oh, she still talks to me about it from time to time, but when I find her doing so too often, I have to remind her that it's too much. [/QUOTE]
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