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<blockquote data-quote="BestICan" data-source="post: 148882" data-attributes="member: 3413"><p>I agree with Christy. Internal motivation only works for a child who is wired for that kind of reward. For the rest of us, we're busy trying to teach our children about the concept of internal motivation before it can be put to use!</p><p></p><p>If most parents are like me, we start using rewards/punishments when our kids are very young, well before we know of their diagnoses, because nothing else has worked and we're desperate. I use the "quarter jar" (oh how I wish I knew about a "marble jar" back when we started this; I'd be much richer) for difficult child. </p><p></p><p>Believe me, from the first punishment and reward, back when difficult child was probably 3, I knew at the time that this was not the greatest path to take. But it's a tool, and a useful one at times. It's one thing to add to the toolbox - along with SO many other techniques - to help a difficult child live together with family and get along in the school setting.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BestICan, post: 148882, member: 3413"] I agree with Christy. Internal motivation only works for a child who is wired for that kind of reward. For the rest of us, we're busy trying to teach our children about the concept of internal motivation before it can be put to use! If most parents are like me, we start using rewards/punishments when our kids are very young, well before we know of their diagnoses, because nothing else has worked and we're desperate. I use the "quarter jar" (oh how I wish I knew about a "marble jar" back when we started this; I'd be much richer) for difficult child. Believe me, from the first punishment and reward, back when difficult child was probably 3, I knew at the time that this was not the greatest path to take. But it's a tool, and a useful one at times. It's one thing to add to the toolbox - along with SO many other techniques - to help a difficult child live together with family and get along in the school setting. [/QUOTE]
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