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<blockquote data-quote="Nomad" data-source="post: 380667"><p>I'm so sorry. </p><p>I suppose it is good that he is texting with- his dad. As long as your husband isn't 'into' enabling.</p><p>We always had better luck (not necessarily good luck...but at least a better result....and many of us here will take better because that is 10000x brighter than what we usually get) when we make our difficult child meet us half way. </p><p>So, we don't do things for her...hand things to her on a silver platter.</p><p>Case in point....she moved to the other side of town. We use to take her to the doctor near our house. Now, she has to take several buses to get there. We drop off the check to pay the doctor at the doctor's office or have the doctor's receptionist call us for payment after the appointment. We are still willing to pay, but she has to get herself there. We use to offer transpotation one way....again a 'help' of sorts. Now, even that is not do-able for us. But, we are still waying to pay for the apt, as long as she gets herself to and from the apt. It sounds silly and is only a small comparssion in view of the severity of the situation....but an example of 'meeting us half way." In tiny increments, she is learning to take care of herself and some of her own responsibilities.</p><p>We also do NOT do anything that will hurt us personally or our family to help difficult child. We help her when we can and if she is willing to do her part (meet us half way at the very least).</p><p>Don't know if this applies here or how it might apply...but it is something to consider. Sort of a philosophy.</p><p>Hang in there (hugs).</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nomad, post: 380667"] I'm so sorry. I suppose it is good that he is texting with- his dad. As long as your husband isn't 'into' enabling. We always had better luck (not necessarily good luck...but at least a better result....and many of us here will take better because that is 10000x brighter than what we usually get) when we make our difficult child meet us half way. So, we don't do things for her...hand things to her on a silver platter. Case in point....she moved to the other side of town. We use to take her to the doctor near our house. Now, she has to take several buses to get there. We drop off the check to pay the doctor at the doctor's office or have the doctor's receptionist call us for payment after the appointment. We are still willing to pay, but she has to get herself there. We use to offer transpotation one way....again a 'help' of sorts. Now, even that is not do-able for us. But, we are still waying to pay for the apt, as long as she gets herself to and from the apt. It sounds silly and is only a small comparssion in view of the severity of the situation....but an example of 'meeting us half way." In tiny increments, she is learning to take care of herself and some of her own responsibilities. We also do NOT do anything that will hurt us personally or our family to help difficult child. We help her when we can and if she is willing to do her part (meet us half way at the very least). Don't know if this applies here or how it might apply...but it is something to consider. Sort of a philosophy. Hang in there (hugs). [/QUOTE]
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