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<blockquote data-quote="flutterby" data-source="post: 267486" data-attributes="member: 7083"><p>There are lots of things that came to mind when I read this. </p><p></p><p>The main one being, as children become older they are expected to become more independent. It is at this age that some issues come to light that were not noticed before or that could be explained away by other things.</p><p></p><p>There are various learning disabilities, NonVerbal Learning Disorder (NVLD) (non-verbal learning disability) EFD (Executive Function Disorders), anxiety, on and on and on, that come to mind.</p><p></p><p>My daughter has EFD, as well as severe anxiety, and she needs constant guidance. Organizing, planning, meeting deadlines, even cleaning her room are overwhelming because she simply doesn't know where to start. If you spell it out (for example with steps written down) she can accomplish it. She was about this age when it started to become apparent: unorganized in school, forgetting to bring homework home, forgetting to turn it in, etc. At this age, math becomes more complex involving more than one step. She can get it, it just takes her longer. I can so relate to teaching it from home like she was never at school. It was a daily occurence. She was missing recess to get her class folders organized. I could go on and on.</p><p></p><p>On the other hand, she can do and does research things she's interested in. She has taught herself to knit and crochet, for example. However, it's a process and there are several weeks of her melting down over it (and these are things she <em>wants</em> to do) until she finally gets it. </p><p></p><p>I would get a neuropsychological evaluation. I don't recommend it for everyone (although some here do), but I think in your daughter's case it could be very helpful. Pediatricians are not qualified in this area.</p><p></p><p>It's easy when you're in the midst of it to just focus on the behavior. I'm guilty of it myself. But, I think it's important to step back and look at everything as a whole and see if you can put things together.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="flutterby, post: 267486, member: 7083"] There are lots of things that came to mind when I read this. The main one being, as children become older they are expected to become more independent. It is at this age that some issues come to light that were not noticed before or that could be explained away by other things. There are various learning disabilities, NonVerbal Learning Disorder (NVLD) (non-verbal learning disability) EFD (Executive Function Disorders), anxiety, on and on and on, that come to mind. My daughter has EFD, as well as severe anxiety, and she needs constant guidance. Organizing, planning, meeting deadlines, even cleaning her room are overwhelming because she simply doesn't know where to start. If you spell it out (for example with steps written down) she can accomplish it. She was about this age when it started to become apparent: unorganized in school, forgetting to bring homework home, forgetting to turn it in, etc. At this age, math becomes more complex involving more than one step. She can get it, it just takes her longer. I can so relate to teaching it from home like she was never at school. It was a daily occurence. She was missing recess to get her class folders organized. I could go on and on. On the other hand, she can do and does research things she's interested in. She has taught herself to knit and crochet, for example. However, it's a process and there are several weeks of her melting down over it (and these are things she [I]wants[/I] to do) until she finally gets it. I would get a neuropsychological evaluation. I don't recommend it for everyone (although some here do), but I think in your daughter's case it could be very helpful. Pediatricians are not qualified in this area. It's easy when you're in the midst of it to just focus on the behavior. I'm guilty of it myself. But, I think it's important to step back and look at everything as a whole and see if you can put things together. [/QUOTE]
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