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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 493852" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Hi there.</p><p></p><p>So sorry you had to find us. So many of us can relate.</p><p></p><p>First off, I'd like to get my .02, which may or may not be correct. Whether or not he is addicted to alcohol or pot or other drugs, he is using them to try to feel better, which is only going to make matters worse. If this were my kid, I would be thinking he does have a substance abuse problem...or will soon if he doesn't stop doing what he's doing. With that in mind, if this were me, I would drag husband to Al-Anon or Narc-Anon to see what others in the same situation have done. Drugs/alcohol alone can cause moodswings and suicidal behaviors. It's kind of like, what came first, the chicken or the egg? My daughter, who abused almost every drug on earth, was never suicidal or moody until she started using drugs and then she talked about suicide all the time and ended up in a phospital (which didn't help or believe she had a drug problem). At any rate, in my opinion the drugs/alcohol are a big factor here. He would probably more able to be helped if he would stop using both.</p><p></p><p>I'm not sure what to do about kicking him out. Regardless of what you do, I'd get new credit cards and HIDE THEM. Cancel the numbers that he has. Whether or not he is depressed (I suffer depression) he has no right to make himself feel better by using your credit cards to put you in debt. There is no excuse for that other than psychosis and he isn't psychotic. I'd put the new cards in a lock box. Money too. </p><p></p><p>Is he ever violent? If so, I would call the police, even if it upsets him, because you and wife need to be safe in your own home. Are there other kids at home? Has he ever pushed anyone, pulled a knife, etc. etc. etc. If not, you can probably keep him at home for now, if that is how you want to handle it. If he is violent...in my opinion only, you have to think about the safety of others.</p><p></p><p>Hugs...so sorry you are going through this.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 493852, member: 1550"] Hi there. So sorry you had to find us. So many of us can relate. First off, I'd like to get my .02, which may or may not be correct. Whether or not he is addicted to alcohol or pot or other drugs, he is using them to try to feel better, which is only going to make matters worse. If this were my kid, I would be thinking he does have a substance abuse problem...or will soon if he doesn't stop doing what he's doing. With that in mind, if this were me, I would drag husband to Al-Anon or Narc-Anon to see what others in the same situation have done. Drugs/alcohol alone can cause moodswings and suicidal behaviors. It's kind of like, what came first, the chicken or the egg? My daughter, who abused almost every drug on earth, was never suicidal or moody until she started using drugs and then she talked about suicide all the time and ended up in a phospital (which didn't help or believe she had a drug problem). At any rate, in my opinion the drugs/alcohol are a big factor here. He would probably more able to be helped if he would stop using both. I'm not sure what to do about kicking him out. Regardless of what you do, I'd get new credit cards and HIDE THEM. Cancel the numbers that he has. Whether or not he is depressed (I suffer depression) he has no right to make himself feel better by using your credit cards to put you in debt. There is no excuse for that other than psychosis and he isn't psychotic. I'd put the new cards in a lock box. Money too. Is he ever violent? If so, I would call the police, even if it upsets him, because you and wife need to be safe in your own home. Are there other kids at home? Has he ever pushed anyone, pulled a knife, etc. etc. etc. If not, you can probably keep him at home for now, if that is how you want to handle it. If he is violent...in my opinion only, you have to think about the safety of others. Hugs...so sorry you are going through this. [/QUOTE]
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