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<blockquote data-quote="Malika" data-source="post: 458706" data-attributes="member: 11227"><p>I'd love to think that the teacher is hoping to engage and enrich him more but to be honest the thinking isn't really like that in a conventional French school. I think I am fair in saying that. It's more about getting the child to tread the accepted path in the accepted way... For me, J's "problems" at school are to do with behaviour, not (at this stage) academic performance. I don't know that he acts up because he is really bright (he is bright, but I don't believe he is at the level of gifted) but partly it's just because he's a boy and an active boy who wants to do boyish things. The funny thing with him is that if you treat him the right way, he is really "good" - co-operative and quite mature. If you try to be the unquestioned, punishing authority, he becomes a devil... I fear that the teacher is not going to be able to see all this because it is too far out of her norms but I don't know until I have tried talking to her again. She doesn't accept that he has ADHD whereas I feel it's probably what is going on. This in itself is something of a drawback, of course. The battle for understanding is also with the childminder, who is similarly punitive. I have also to try to talk to her, to explain something, maybe give her some material to read. Punishment is an absolute waste of time with J and makes him angry and depressed, I think.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Malika, post: 458706, member: 11227"] I'd love to think that the teacher is hoping to engage and enrich him more but to be honest the thinking isn't really like that in a conventional French school. I think I am fair in saying that. It's more about getting the child to tread the accepted path in the accepted way... For me, J's "problems" at school are to do with behaviour, not (at this stage) academic performance. I don't know that he acts up because he is really bright (he is bright, but I don't believe he is at the level of gifted) but partly it's just because he's a boy and an active boy who wants to do boyish things. The funny thing with him is that if you treat him the right way, he is really "good" - co-operative and quite mature. If you try to be the unquestioned, punishing authority, he becomes a devil... I fear that the teacher is not going to be able to see all this because it is too far out of her norms but I don't know until I have tried talking to her again. She doesn't accept that he has ADHD whereas I feel it's probably what is going on. This in itself is something of a drawback, of course. The battle for understanding is also with the childminder, who is similarly punitive. I have also to try to talk to her, to explain something, maybe give her some material to read. Punishment is an absolute waste of time with J and makes him angry and depressed, I think. [/QUOTE]
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