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<blockquote data-quote="firehorsewoman" data-source="post: 553711" data-attributes="member: 15804"><p>thanks everyone for responding. Yes, CJ I have spoken to the kids about cigarettes but not as emphatically as I should lately. They are being raised so differently than I was. My mother smoked cigarettes (possibly weed as well?) through all of her pregnancies, smoked heavily around us all day long, both of my grandparents were heavy smokers, I grew up in a place that was very pro-smoking....my kids on the other hand did not even know what cigarettes are called and until a few years ago referred to them as "those smoke sticks."</p><p></p><p>My kids have never met my mother. I have not had contact with her for over 16 years. They have sensed from a young age that something is very different and wrong with the situation because their father has two parents that he is very close to and sees virtually every day. They are super involved in my kid's lives. Me on the other hand have no parents to speak of. Haven't had contact with my father in about 30 years. Because they have asked me many times why this is ("Mommy why don't you have a mom and dad?") we have had the discussion about my mother having "problems" and more recently I have shared with them that part of her problems involve drugs. We will have more detailed conversations about that later. But for now they seem to associate drugs with "bad" people who have "problems" like their difficult child maternal grandmother that they will never meet. So, I doubt they will ever ask me if I have smoked pot etc. I probably won't get that warning sign.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="firehorsewoman, post: 553711, member: 15804"] thanks everyone for responding. Yes, CJ I have spoken to the kids about cigarettes but not as emphatically as I should lately. They are being raised so differently than I was. My mother smoked cigarettes (possibly weed as well?) through all of her pregnancies, smoked heavily around us all day long, both of my grandparents were heavy smokers, I grew up in a place that was very pro-smoking....my kids on the other hand did not even know what cigarettes are called and until a few years ago referred to them as "those smoke sticks." My kids have never met my mother. I have not had contact with her for over 16 years. They have sensed from a young age that something is very different and wrong with the situation because their father has two parents that he is very close to and sees virtually every day. They are super involved in my kid's lives. Me on the other hand have no parents to speak of. Haven't had contact with my father in about 30 years. Because they have asked me many times why this is ("Mommy why don't you have a mom and dad?") we have had the discussion about my mother having "problems" and more recently I have shared with them that part of her problems involve drugs. We will have more detailed conversations about that later. But for now they seem to associate drugs with "bad" people who have "problems" like their difficult child maternal grandmother that they will never meet. So, I doubt they will ever ask me if I have smoked pot etc. I probably won't get that warning sign. [/QUOTE]
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