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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember1" data-source="post: 762092" data-attributes="member: 23706"><p>Our age and health are in my opinion importent with older person adoption. Kids will need our care for at least 18 years and some much longer. I feel if husband and I adopted any infant now, in 10 years I will be 78. And he will be 10 with so many years left to go and no guantees we can make it. What happens to the child when the only parents he knows gets sick or dies at vulnerable ages for the kids?? That is a bad time for them suddenly ending up in foster care. If you are 50 you could likely do it. 60 harder. 70 almost no way of being able to go all the way. in my opinion not worth the gamble.</p><p></p><p>This is something we may put on the backburner at first but in my opinion it is vitally important. So I brought it up as a reminder. We can look to interested younger relatives or out of family adoption. I would not encourage Kay to keep the baby but in the end this is on her with nothing I can do.</p><p></p><p>This is not easy. All we can do is what we can do. The baby needs one or two parents who will be there for a very long time. Our age matters before we offer. Do please think if you have no young relatives to take over if you should die and then leave the baby parent less. Scary, right?</p><p></p><p>Hugs and love.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember1, post: 762092, member: 23706"] Our age and health are in my opinion importent with older person adoption. Kids will need our care for at least 18 years and some much longer. I feel if husband and I adopted any infant now, in 10 years I will be 78. And he will be 10 with so many years left to go and no guantees we can make it. What happens to the child when the only parents he knows gets sick or dies at vulnerable ages for the kids?? That is a bad time for them suddenly ending up in foster care. If you are 50 you could likely do it. 60 harder. 70 almost no way of being able to go all the way. in my opinion not worth the gamble. This is something we may put on the backburner at first but in my opinion it is vitally important. So I brought it up as a reminder. We can look to interested younger relatives or out of family adoption. I would not encourage Kay to keep the baby but in the end this is on her with nothing I can do. This is not easy. All we can do is what we can do. The baby needs one or two parents who will be there for a very long time. Our age matters before we offer. Do please think if you have no young relatives to take over if you should die and then leave the baby parent less. Scary, right? Hugs and love. [/QUOTE]
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