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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 342364" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I have never understood why Valentine's Day is celebrated at school. At any other time most of the greetings would be frowned upon between kids. I know that both when I was in school AND now many kids, esp in 4-6th grades, use the cards and greetings as a way to make fun of other kids. The hideous teasing of "homo" or "fagg" is applied to certain less than popular kids even if they use the same cards everyone else uses. </p><p></p><p>I can remember being teased this way. It was a major reason I stopped participating in recess or any other "social" time with peers. Just choosing which classmate got which card was agonizing way back then. I wanted to avoid the teasing and cruelty but had no idea how. Quite a few classmates felt the same, looking back.</p><p></p><p>Now thank you is teased this way. He agonized over the greeting on his Valentines cards. It is one reason we make them. So many of the greetings in the printed cards can be taken many ways. Kids are sophisticated enough to know these ways and use them against each other. This year we dodged the bullet by copying a Valentine from <a href="http://www.familyfun.com" target="_blank">www.familyfun.com</a> that was printed on a paper airplane. Instead of tying the paper and directions up in a scroll we put stickers on the planes to make them colorful and folded them into the airplanes. We even had thank you put his name on them before we copied them to save him from writing his name over and over (gets painful for him - hand cramps, etc...).</p><p></p><p>Kids can send cards asking people to be their Valentine and expressing all kinds of gooey sentiments but on any other day if they do this or hug each other or kiss a classmate the cops can be called? Isn't this strange to anyone else? I cannot fathom how to explain this to a child with social skills problems, one for whom the social rules do not come naturally. </p><p></p><p>At least the elem school does not do the candy grams. That is one good thing about the holiday!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 342364, member: 1233"] I have never understood why Valentine's Day is celebrated at school. At any other time most of the greetings would be frowned upon between kids. I know that both when I was in school AND now many kids, esp in 4-6th grades, use the cards and greetings as a way to make fun of other kids. The hideous teasing of "homo" or "fagg" is applied to certain less than popular kids even if they use the same cards everyone else uses. I can remember being teased this way. It was a major reason I stopped participating in recess or any other "social" time with peers. Just choosing which classmate got which card was agonizing way back then. I wanted to avoid the teasing and cruelty but had no idea how. Quite a few classmates felt the same, looking back. Now thank you is teased this way. He agonized over the greeting on his Valentines cards. It is one reason we make them. So many of the greetings in the printed cards can be taken many ways. Kids are sophisticated enough to know these ways and use them against each other. This year we dodged the bullet by copying a Valentine from [url]www.familyfun.com[/url] that was printed on a paper airplane. Instead of tying the paper and directions up in a scroll we put stickers on the planes to make them colorful and folded them into the airplanes. We even had thank you put his name on them before we copied them to save him from writing his name over and over (gets painful for him - hand cramps, etc...). Kids can send cards asking people to be their Valentine and expressing all kinds of gooey sentiments but on any other day if they do this or hug each other or kiss a classmate the cops can be called? Isn't this strange to anyone else? I cannot fathom how to explain this to a child with social skills problems, one for whom the social rules do not come naturally. At least the elem school does not do the candy grams. That is one good thing about the holiday! [/QUOTE]
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