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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 536498" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>This does sound very much like "everything around me seems out of my control, so I am just going to take control back so I can begin to predict what is likely to happen."</p><p></p><p>We've had a houseful of these. Even easy child has some of this in her, which made life interesting when she clashed with the younger, even more stubborn and Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) kids.</p><p></p><p>Your mention of suspected but undiagnosed brain injury, because she should be able to achieve at a higher level than she actually is - this is what we have seen in our three younger ones. They started out well but at some point simply failed to 'get it' at school. easy child 2/difficult child 2 especially was assessed at age 4, as being in the top 1% of the population. She was skipped a grade into K at age 4 and did well to begin with. Then at about grade 3 there were a few glitches starting up which at first seemed to be easy child 2/difficult child 2 trying to dumb down to be popular because smart was not popular. It took another two years for us to realise there was more to the problem, and another year before we could even begin to get answers. easy child 2/difficult child 2 has always been an extreme control freak (which is one reason she assessed as so bright when younger - she expended a lot of her intellect in learning fast, how to control people around her; she was very good at it).</p><p></p><p>Now what also concerns me - the wide range of diagnoses your daughter has had, plus the range of medications that have 'failed'. Sometimes a medication fails because the diagnosis is wrong. And in girls, it is often more difficult to get the diagnosis right, if it's on the autism spectrum in any way. easy child 2/difficult child 2 is now 25 (heading for 26) and we're about to get the neuropsychologist report handed down next week. The provisional diagnosis now is Asperger's. However, the shrink who finally said, "I think you need to be assessed for Asperger's," had only a month earlier insisted that it could NOT be Asperger's but was almost certainly bipolar. I could see why superficially the doctor thought bipolar, but easy child 2/difficult child 2's more detailed history shows the flaws in this diagnosis.</p><p></p><p>The thing is, we've been trying to find answers for easy child 2/difficult child 2 since she was 10. She had her first neuropsychologist assessment done when she was 4. When she was 10, the school did another one. And then there were smaller subtests done through high school, but we were never given the results. Just told, "my, she IS bright, isn't she?" but nobody asked why she was not achieving at her expected level.</p><p></p><p>So now she's 25 and we're (hopefully) finally getting a diagnosis.</p><p></p><p>I hope it doesn't take so long for your daughter, but I'm suspecting you've already been up and down the same garden path as us, several times over.</p><p></p><p>Oh, and I'm sure I needn't add that difficult child 3 ramps up this experience for us by several orders of magnitude. One kid left at home and we feel like his hostages sometimes.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 536498, member: 1991"] This does sound very much like "everything around me seems out of my control, so I am just going to take control back so I can begin to predict what is likely to happen." We've had a houseful of these. Even easy child has some of this in her, which made life interesting when she clashed with the younger, even more stubborn and Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) kids. Your mention of suspected but undiagnosed brain injury, because she should be able to achieve at a higher level than she actually is - this is what we have seen in our three younger ones. They started out well but at some point simply failed to 'get it' at school. easy child 2/difficult child 2 especially was assessed at age 4, as being in the top 1% of the population. She was skipped a grade into K at age 4 and did well to begin with. Then at about grade 3 there were a few glitches starting up which at first seemed to be easy child 2/difficult child 2 trying to dumb down to be popular because smart was not popular. It took another two years for us to realise there was more to the problem, and another year before we could even begin to get answers. easy child 2/difficult child 2 has always been an extreme control freak (which is one reason she assessed as so bright when younger - she expended a lot of her intellect in learning fast, how to control people around her; she was very good at it). Now what also concerns me - the wide range of diagnoses your daughter has had, plus the range of medications that have 'failed'. Sometimes a medication fails because the diagnosis is wrong. And in girls, it is often more difficult to get the diagnosis right, if it's on the autism spectrum in any way. easy child 2/difficult child 2 is now 25 (heading for 26) and we're about to get the neuropsychologist report handed down next week. The provisional diagnosis now is Asperger's. However, the shrink who finally said, "I think you need to be assessed for Asperger's," had only a month earlier insisted that it could NOT be Asperger's but was almost certainly bipolar. I could see why superficially the doctor thought bipolar, but easy child 2/difficult child 2's more detailed history shows the flaws in this diagnosis. The thing is, we've been trying to find answers for easy child 2/difficult child 2 since she was 10. She had her first neuropsychologist assessment done when she was 4. When she was 10, the school did another one. And then there were smaller subtests done through high school, but we were never given the results. Just told, "my, she IS bright, isn't she?" but nobody asked why she was not achieving at her expected level. So now she's 25 and we're (hopefully) finally getting a diagnosis. I hope it doesn't take so long for your daughter, but I'm suspecting you've already been up and down the same garden path as us, several times over. Oh, and I'm sure I needn't add that difficult child 3 ramps up this experience for us by several orders of magnitude. One kid left at home and we feel like his hostages sometimes. Marg [/QUOTE]
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