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<blockquote data-quote="standswithcourage" data-source="post: 75463" data-attributes="member: 3948"><p>I agree with let him stay until the Residential Treatment Center (RTC) feels like he is ready to come back into home and society. It is hard for them and for your family especially if you dont see much improvement. It just sets up for failure especially if he wants to hang with old friends - it will only get worse. My son did that very thing. We took him back many times from rehabs, etc. and he went back to his old friends. We even moved about 15 minutes away from the old friends and he walked there. I can tell you that unless they want to change you are not doing them any favors by letting them come home. I am in a situation right now. My 24 year old son is home temporaily. He is right back where he was when he left. He was in jail for 52 days for possession of marijuana at work. Lost his 40hour a week job. He was living in a dump with some friends - he lost his job at Pizza Inn and we let him come home because he had probation meetings, vocational rehab meetings, etc. Also it was his birthday. The place he was living had no car. Sooooooooo he is still smoking pot even though he is on probation - taking his prescribed prescription of Xanax from his Doctor and pain pills for his wisdom tooth that is killing him - dentist also prescribed him antibiotic. He needs treatment for drugs. He has been to a correctional facility for 10 months on Youthful Offenders and various other programs - it is a nightmare. I dont wish that for you. I am waiting to see what is going to happen if he doesnt pay his fines. He has no job now. Sometimes I feel so bad for him and want to fix it. I have tried for years. It doesnt help him but it tears my heart out as a mother. I know how you feel. Right now he is passed out on my bed. I am a teacher and my husband is an engineer. I cannot quit my job. I just got it. I havent taught school in 10 years. How can I baby sit him during the day at home. It doesnt seem fair. He needs to go somewhere that someone can take him to his drug classes, probation, a job and GED classes but he doesnt want not to be able to take Xanax. Which is highly addictive and all people like it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="standswithcourage, post: 75463, member: 3948"] I agree with let him stay until the Residential Treatment Center (RTC) feels like he is ready to come back into home and society. It is hard for them and for your family especially if you dont see much improvement. It just sets up for failure especially if he wants to hang with old friends - it will only get worse. My son did that very thing. We took him back many times from rehabs, etc. and he went back to his old friends. We even moved about 15 minutes away from the old friends and he walked there. I can tell you that unless they want to change you are not doing them any favors by letting them come home. I am in a situation right now. My 24 year old son is home temporaily. He is right back where he was when he left. He was in jail for 52 days for possession of marijuana at work. Lost his 40hour a week job. He was living in a dump with some friends - he lost his job at Pizza Inn and we let him come home because he had probation meetings, vocational rehab meetings, etc. Also it was his birthday. The place he was living had no car. Sooooooooo he is still smoking pot even though he is on probation - taking his prescribed prescription of Xanax from his Doctor and pain pills for his wisdom tooth that is killing him - dentist also prescribed him antibiotic. He needs treatment for drugs. He has been to a correctional facility for 10 months on Youthful Offenders and various other programs - it is a nightmare. I dont wish that for you. I am waiting to see what is going to happen if he doesnt pay his fines. He has no job now. Sometimes I feel so bad for him and want to fix it. I have tried for years. It doesnt help him but it tears my heart out as a mother. I know how you feel. Right now he is passed out on my bed. I am a teacher and my husband is an engineer. I cannot quit my job. I just got it. I havent taught school in 10 years. How can I baby sit him during the day at home. It doesnt seem fair. He needs to go somewhere that someone can take him to his drug classes, probation, a job and GED classes but he doesnt want not to be able to take Xanax. Which is highly addictive and all people like it. [/QUOTE]
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