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<blockquote data-quote="LittleDudesMom" data-source="post: 51987" data-attributes="member: 805"><p>Melissa,</p><p></p><p>I'm white, my soon to be ex bonehead is black and therefor our children are mixed.</p><p></p><p>I did not get a chance to actually read the article you referenced in a later post, but the majority of it is cr*p!!!</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Certainly our mixed children and mixed grandchildren (black and white) are considered black. Their birthcertificates bear that information. In most states, if not all, a child is considered to be whatever minority is in them. What do they mean "hare that information with him?" What information, that he is black?? Are we stupid?</p><p></p><p>If you raise a child to think he will always be accepted in life, every one of them is in for a shock at some point in their life! Noone is accepted by everyone. Being raised in a while family does not guarantee a child is raised with a sense of entitlement. You teach all children that people do judge, unfairly, about skin color, religion, freckles, body size, hair color, glasses, social status, level of education, and what dag-on shoes you are wearing. No, son(daughter), it's not fair, but you define who you are by what you do not what you look like.</p><p></p><p>"Keep the child away from negative black male role models" - what the heck, keep the child away from as many negative role models as possible irregardless of race or sex. How simplistic.</p><p></p><p>College a where and not an if. Parents should accept that every child is differnt. Some will go on to college, some will find and learn a trade, and some will work at CVS or McDonalds. So? No parent should force their child into a lifestyle to make a point. You support and encourage your child to find their passion.</p><p></p><p>Lie????? Tell a child the male role model in his life is his father. Great, so now we are lying to our child and modeling that behavior? Good.</p><p></p><p>Some blacks won't accept him/her because they are not pure, some whites won't accept him/her because they are not pure, some Christians won't accept him/her because he is a Jew, some social snobs won't accept him/her because his bank account is not high enough, and on and on.</p><p></p><p>Raise your childre and your grandchild with love. Raise them to believe in themselves. Raise them to understand that a person is given this life as a gift and should life it to their full potential. Raise your child to understand that they are defined by the choices they make in the difficult times, not the fun they are having in the good ones.</p><p></p><p>When your biracial children or grandchild ask about their heritage, be honest and straight forward. One parent is black and the other is white and you are a combination of the best in both. </p><p></p><p>Ok, I'll step off my soapbox now. Sorry. I just get so aggrivated when things are made more difficult than they are and it causes folks to stress out and doubt themselves.</p><p></p><p>Life is what it is, why make things more difficult. Raise your children to be an American and take pride in all their heritage. Celebrate their history by choosing books and movies that show folks with their common background who have risen above and succeeded to become good people. Be informed about ethnic holidays so that you can begin new customes in your home.</p><p></p><p>But most all, teach your children the infamous words of Martin Luther King, Jr. He dreamed of a world where his children would be judged by the content of their character and not the color of their skin. If we all do that with our chidren, we wouldn't be having this discussion and they wouldn't have to have it in the future.</p><p></p><p>Sharon</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="LittleDudesMom, post: 51987, member: 805"] Melissa, I'm white, my soon to be ex bonehead is black and therefor our children are mixed. I did not get a chance to actually read the article you referenced in a later post, but the majority of it is cr*p!!! Certainly our mixed children and mixed grandchildren (black and white) are considered black. Their birthcertificates bear that information. In most states, if not all, a child is considered to be whatever minority is in them. What do they mean "hare that information with him?" What information, that he is black?? Are we stupid? If you raise a child to think he will always be accepted in life, every one of them is in for a shock at some point in their life! Noone is accepted by everyone. Being raised in a while family does not guarantee a child is raised with a sense of entitlement. You teach all children that people do judge, unfairly, about skin color, religion, freckles, body size, hair color, glasses, social status, level of education, and what dag-on shoes you are wearing. No, son(daughter), it's not fair, but you define who you are by what you do not what you look like. "Keep the child away from negative black male role models" - what the heck, keep the child away from as many negative role models as possible irregardless of race or sex. How simplistic. College a where and not an if. Parents should accept that every child is differnt. Some will go on to college, some will find and learn a trade, and some will work at CVS or McDonalds. So? No parent should force their child into a lifestyle to make a point. You support and encourage your child to find their passion. Lie????? Tell a child the male role model in his life is his father. Great, so now we are lying to our child and modeling that behavior? Good. Some blacks won't accept him/her because they are not pure, some whites won't accept him/her because they are not pure, some Christians won't accept him/her because he is a Jew, some social snobs won't accept him/her because his bank account is not high enough, and on and on. Raise your childre and your grandchild with love. Raise them to believe in themselves. Raise them to understand that a person is given this life as a gift and should life it to their full potential. Raise your child to understand that they are defined by the choices they make in the difficult times, not the fun they are having in the good ones. When your biracial children or grandchild ask about their heritage, be honest and straight forward. One parent is black and the other is white and you are a combination of the best in both. Ok, I'll step off my soapbox now. Sorry. I just get so aggrivated when things are made more difficult than they are and it causes folks to stress out and doubt themselves. Life is what it is, why make things more difficult. Raise your children to be an American and take pride in all their heritage. Celebrate their history by choosing books and movies that show folks with their common background who have risen above and succeeded to become good people. Be informed about ethnic holidays so that you can begin new customes in your home. But most all, teach your children the infamous words of Martin Luther King, Jr. He dreamed of a world where his children would be judged by the content of their character and not the color of their skin. If we all do that with our chidren, we wouldn't be having this discussion and they wouldn't have to have it in the future. Sharon [/QUOTE]
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