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<blockquote data-quote="TerryJ2" data-source="post: 52007" data-attributes="member: 3419"><p>This is significant. Everyone, even racists, think babies and kids are cute. When the kids grow up, the whole thing changes. It's one reason I try to keep my difficult child out of baggy pants and do-rags. Sure, there are lots of very nice kids who wear those things. But the clothing is a "uniform" that screams "delinquent" whether they realize it or not.</p><p>Luckily, my difficult child doesn't want to wear baggy pants anyway... they interfere with-his sports and ability to run, mostly in baseball, but also ice skating.</p><p></p><p>It's very hard to explain to a 10-yr-old why certain clothes can be a turn-on or turn-off, so I wait until he says something and THEN I explain it, since he's already noticed it. One thing he has noticed and has commented on repeatedly is the attitude and demeanor of certain kids, in that they look "mean."</p><p></p><p>"Mommy, why do black and brown kids always push people in the mall with-their shoulders, and have those mean looks on their faces?" (It breaks my heart to hear him say that.)</p><p></p><p>"It's learned behavior," I tell him. "They think they're cool. Do you think it's cool?"</p><p></p><p>"NO."</p><p></p><p>"Do you see white kids doing that?"</p><p></p><p>"Sort of... they can be rude but they're not as scary."</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TerryJ2, post: 52007, member: 3419"] This is significant. Everyone, even racists, think babies and kids are cute. When the kids grow up, the whole thing changes. It's one reason I try to keep my difficult child out of baggy pants and do-rags. Sure, there are lots of very nice kids who wear those things. But the clothing is a "uniform" that screams "delinquent" whether they realize it or not. Luckily, my difficult child doesn't want to wear baggy pants anyway... they interfere with-his sports and ability to run, mostly in baseball, but also ice skating. It's very hard to explain to a 10-yr-old why certain clothes can be a turn-on or turn-off, so I wait until he says something and THEN I explain it, since he's already noticed it. One thing he has noticed and has commented on repeatedly is the attitude and demeanor of certain kids, in that they look "mean." "Mommy, why do black and brown kids always push people in the mall with-their shoulders, and have those mean looks on their faces?" (It breaks my heart to hear him say that.) "It's learned behavior," I tell him. "They think they're cool. Do you think it's cool?" "NO." "Do you see white kids doing that?" "Sort of... they can be rude but they're not as scary." [/QUOTE]
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