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<blockquote data-quote="totoro" data-source="post: 245847" data-attributes="member: 3155"><p>While K is only 7 she does not have chores, per se. But she does have to help with things around the house. I have found that if I let it get to be too much when I come in and expect her to do it all at once or even if I ask her when she is not doing well, it becomes too much for her. </p><p>I have to help her to do it in small directed sections or segments.</p><p>Like, let's pick up your books. Obviously your difficult child is older so she can be expected to possibly do more.</p><p>K helps with sweeping, but I don't expect her to do a perfect job. I am happy at this point that she helps. I make a big deal that she is helping, I reward her, I am trying to keep it positive, not a *chore* because the word *chore* seems to be equated with the negative.</p><p>We just started with allowance, we start with 5$ on Friday, she gets some taken away or given back depending on her behaviours. </p><p>I ask her to clean up something in her room, I will help her even. Throw a bit of a fit. No argument, that is 25 cents. More arguing, more money. </p><p>I even keep this fun, when she is doing really well I tell her how good she is doing and make a big deal about giving her 25 cents back. </p><p>It is working for now, maybe not next week, then we will search for something else.</p><p>Taking stuff away from her does not work for now either.</p><p>I find with a lot of our kids you have to revisit things because they change constantly.</p><p>On the other hand 13 yo girls with hormones, well they are moody and want to sit in there rooms! </p><p>So you could also be fighting a losing battle especially with the Depression and possible Aspergers.</p><p>Hang in there. Fun times!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="totoro, post: 245847, member: 3155"] While K is only 7 she does not have chores, per se. But she does have to help with things around the house. I have found that if I let it get to be too much when I come in and expect her to do it all at once or even if I ask her when she is not doing well, it becomes too much for her. I have to help her to do it in small directed sections or segments. Like, let's pick up your books. Obviously your difficult child is older so she can be expected to possibly do more. K helps with sweeping, but I don't expect her to do a perfect job. I am happy at this point that she helps. I make a big deal that she is helping, I reward her, I am trying to keep it positive, not a *chore* because the word *chore* seems to be equated with the negative. We just started with allowance, we start with 5$ on Friday, she gets some taken away or given back depending on her behaviours. I ask her to clean up something in her room, I will help her even. Throw a bit of a fit. No argument, that is 25 cents. More arguing, more money. I even keep this fun, when she is doing really well I tell her how good she is doing and make a big deal about giving her 25 cents back. It is working for now, maybe not next week, then we will search for something else. Taking stuff away from her does not work for now either. I find with a lot of our kids you have to revisit things because they change constantly. On the other hand 13 yo girls with hormones, well they are moody and want to sit in there rooms! So you could also be fighting a losing battle especially with the Depression and possible Aspergers. Hang in there. Fun times! [/QUOTE]
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