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<blockquote data-quote="Echolette" data-source="post: 708859" data-attributes="member: 17269"><p>Seeking (nice to see you!)</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>that has been both the blessing and the bane. He had a great PD who has gotten him into multiple transition programs, stepping from inpatient treatment with frequent court followups, to transitional housing with case workers and job support..2 years worth. It is a perfect plan for him and so many others, accessible only by first going to jail. I think that is part of what makes this hard for me..I can see that this is his best possible option, but he throws it away with both hands. I do not know at all if it is his intention, as he leaves jail today, to stay with the program and then it turns out he just doesn't have the persistence in him to do something hard with delayed gratification, or if right now during sheriff's transfer he is planning to walk away tonight and go find his friends in the drug district of town. I don't know. I only know what he says, and what he says has not been what he has done (he has left these facilities the past four or five times).</p><p></p><p>One ray of light...I was talking with him many weeks ago, and sort of hesitantly offered an excuse for him.."ya know, honey, I think part of the problem last time is that you were transferred on a Friday, no activities or structure or even a doctor till MOnday, I'm sure that was frustrating..". He hesitated. I could feel his temptation to take the little gift. Then he said "Mom, the problem is me. I have to commit and get it done. There is no other problem."</p><p>In that brief short moment I saw the heart and soul and humor of my lovely son. Just a glimpse. Those moments are wonderful gifts, kind of like the moments when we remember their chubby huggy selves. They wrench our hearts, but they are gifts.</p><p></p><p>Thank you all for replying. I feel bolstered for the next few days. I'm sure I will be back!</p><p></p><p>Echo</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Echolette, post: 708859, member: 17269"] Seeking (nice to see you!) that has been both the blessing and the bane. He had a great PD who has gotten him into multiple transition programs, stepping from inpatient treatment with frequent court followups, to transitional housing with case workers and job support..2 years worth. It is a perfect plan for him and so many others, accessible only by first going to jail. I think that is part of what makes this hard for me..I can see that this is his best possible option, but he throws it away with both hands. I do not know at all if it is his intention, as he leaves jail today, to stay with the program and then it turns out he just doesn't have the persistence in him to do something hard with delayed gratification, or if right now during sheriff's transfer he is planning to walk away tonight and go find his friends in the drug district of town. I don't know. I only know what he says, and what he says has not been what he has done (he has left these facilities the past four or five times). One ray of light...I was talking with him many weeks ago, and sort of hesitantly offered an excuse for him.."ya know, honey, I think part of the problem last time is that you were transferred on a Friday, no activities or structure or even a doctor till MOnday, I'm sure that was frustrating..". He hesitated. I could feel his temptation to take the little gift. Then he said "Mom, the problem is me. I have to commit and get it done. There is no other problem." In that brief short moment I saw the heart and soul and humor of my lovely son. Just a glimpse. Those moments are wonderful gifts, kind of like the moments when we remember their chubby huggy selves. They wrench our hearts, but they are gifts. Thank you all for replying. I feel bolstered for the next few days. I'm sure I will be back! Echo [/QUOTE]
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