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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 372076" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>Cutting isn't generally teen rebellion or anything having a go at you - it generally is a very personal, often secretive thing. With easy child 2/difficult child 2, she cut herself in order to see blood because then she would understand why she was hurting so much. It was as if the internal emotional pain needed something physically outward to match.</p><p></p><p>There are ways to help someone who is cutting. There are also self-help methods (such as drawing on your arm in red pen instead of cutting) but self-help doesn't work if the underlying problems continue.</p><p></p><p>I'm sorry you're going through this. But somewhere inside, he is hurting a lot and almost certainly does not understand why. Probably blames you. That's another reason to avoid using blame as currency which we all do - it's so easy to see cause and effect slide into blame and responsibility in all cases when too often bad things can just happen and we need to openly acknowledge this.</p><p></p><p>Hang in there.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 372076, member: 1991"] Cutting isn't generally teen rebellion or anything having a go at you - it generally is a very personal, often secretive thing. With easy child 2/difficult child 2, she cut herself in order to see blood because then she would understand why she was hurting so much. It was as if the internal emotional pain needed something physically outward to match. There are ways to help someone who is cutting. There are also self-help methods (such as drawing on your arm in red pen instead of cutting) but self-help doesn't work if the underlying problems continue. I'm sorry you're going through this. But somewhere inside, he is hurting a lot and almost certainly does not understand why. Probably blames you. That's another reason to avoid using blame as currency which we all do - it's so easy to see cause and effect slide into blame and responsibility in all cases when too often bad things can just happen and we need to openly acknowledge this. Hang in there. Marg [/QUOTE]
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