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<blockquote data-quote="Farmwife" data-source="post: 372285" data-attributes="member: 8617"><p>I was a cutter and my reason may be a bit surprising. It was years before my true difficult child-ness came out. I did have home life issues but was a pretty well behaved and well adjusted young teen. Basically I had the potential to be messed up but hadn't gone down the path yet.</p><p> </p><p>My reason for cutting was to be cool, that's all. No numbness or interest in blood, no need to ease anxiety. I was a nerd and made fun of a lot. I saw some cool girls cutting in class and thought if I cut too that I may be less of a nerd. That's it. No deep underlying problems at the time. No actual reason that took any thought. If anything it was a dumb lemming impulse and nothing more.</p><p> </p><p>In fact, the pain from using safety pin as they did was a major deterent so I used a razor because it cut clean and only felt like a paper cut instead of their quite barbaric tendency to dig at themselves with pins an hour at a time. I know it all sounds quite "off" now but the temporary physical discomfort was much less than the real horror of being a kid who is not in the crowd. Kids are brutal and I was desperate to fit in. I just wanted to be left alone and be cool enough to not get picked on anymore.</p><p> </p><p>I am not at all a follower anymore but realizing how hard it is for teens and what lengths they go to in order to fit the flock is pretty scary.</p><p> </p><p>Doesn't mean your difficult child does not need help. Not trying to spread false hope. Just wanted to shed light on what is a very worrisome and mysterious symptom for some parents.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Farmwife, post: 372285, member: 8617"] I was a cutter and my reason may be a bit surprising. It was years before my true difficult child-ness came out. I did have home life issues but was a pretty well behaved and well adjusted young teen. Basically I had the potential to be messed up but hadn't gone down the path yet. My reason for cutting was to be cool, that's all. No numbness or interest in blood, no need to ease anxiety. I was a nerd and made fun of a lot. I saw some cool girls cutting in class and thought if I cut too that I may be less of a nerd. That's it. No deep underlying problems at the time. No actual reason that took any thought. If anything it was a dumb lemming impulse and nothing more. In fact, the pain from using safety pin as they did was a major deterent so I used a razor because it cut clean and only felt like a paper cut instead of their quite barbaric tendency to dig at themselves with pins an hour at a time. I know it all sounds quite "off" now but the temporary physical discomfort was much less than the real horror of being a kid who is not in the crowd. Kids are brutal and I was desperate to fit in. I just wanted to be left alone and be cool enough to not get picked on anymore. I am not at all a follower anymore but realizing how hard it is for teens and what lengths they go to in order to fit the flock is pretty scary. Doesn't mean your difficult child does not need help. Not trying to spread false hope. Just wanted to shed light on what is a very worrisome and mysterious symptom for some parents. [/QUOTE]
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