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<blockquote data-quote="JayPee" data-source="post: 751304" data-attributes="member: 23405"><p>Beta,</p><p></p><p>I have to say I too agree with the ladies on this one. Understandable you want to meet with your sister and rekindle your relationship but I think even if (as we would hope and pray wouldn't happen) he didn't physically threaten you I'm betting that he might likely verbally abuse you. Are you ready for more of that? </p><p></p><p>I know how your heart is aching to see your son and you wish he was all better. You, just as I have done and others, already forgive the horrific things our adult children have said to us but I'll reiterate that it is ok to forgive but do not be so quick to want to reconcile with those who are abusing us. It's necessary that we give them time away from us to hopefully, have space and time to think about things. We cannot keep condoning their bad behavior by immediately running to them with open arms. That hug and love you want to give him when you see him, I fear will not be reciprocated at this time. He has not healed yet or perhaps, not even begun to realize he needs to heal. If he's like my sons, they think I'm the problem. They are not even slightly close to healing and therefore, I'm keeping my distance from them until I see or hear of good changes that have occurred in their lives for at least 6 months.</p><p></p><p>This is the hardest part to wait. I'm sure you know that even for us that God is ready to give us good things but would he reward us if we weren't living correctly? If we lead lives of immorality, sin, verbally hurting people etc. God would not say, hey here's everything you ever dreamed of. No, he would patiently wait for us to learn from the consequences of our bad ways that this isn't the way to go.</p><p></p><p>We just don't want our kids to suffer and feel hurt, lonely and unloved but maybe just maybe, pausing and letting them sit in their sinfullness and bad behaviors will cause some awakening.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="JayPee, post: 751304, member: 23405"] Beta, I have to say I too agree with the ladies on this one. Understandable you want to meet with your sister and rekindle your relationship but I think even if (as we would hope and pray wouldn't happen) he didn't physically threaten you I'm betting that he might likely verbally abuse you. Are you ready for more of that? I know how your heart is aching to see your son and you wish he was all better. You, just as I have done and others, already forgive the horrific things our adult children have said to us but I'll reiterate that it is ok to forgive but do not be so quick to want to reconcile with those who are abusing us. It's necessary that we give them time away from us to hopefully, have space and time to think about things. We cannot keep condoning their bad behavior by immediately running to them with open arms. That hug and love you want to give him when you see him, I fear will not be reciprocated at this time. He has not healed yet or perhaps, not even begun to realize he needs to heal. If he's like my sons, they think I'm the problem. They are not even slightly close to healing and therefore, I'm keeping my distance from them until I see or hear of good changes that have occurred in their lives for at least 6 months. This is the hardest part to wait. I'm sure you know that even for us that God is ready to give us good things but would he reward us if we weren't living correctly? If we lead lives of immorality, sin, verbally hurting people etc. God would not say, hey here's everything you ever dreamed of. No, he would patiently wait for us to learn from the consequences of our bad ways that this isn't the way to go. We just don't want our kids to suffer and feel hurt, lonely and unloved but maybe just maybe, pausing and letting them sit in their sinfullness and bad behaviors will cause some awakening. [/QUOTE]
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