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<blockquote data-quote="DammitJanet" data-source="post: 405609" data-attributes="member: 1514"><p>Well, we tried it all and the only thing that has half way worked is jail. That and a HUGE probation officer who scared the bejeebers out of Cory. The guy made two of Cory and could have snapped him in two without breaking a sweat...lol. </p><p></p><p>If difficult child can get his diploma and at least get some kind of training post HS then maybe he has a chance. He needs to work at something. I think work will be a very important component as fast as you can get him into something. Dont hand him things like cars or cell phones. Make him work for things and earn them himself. He needs to feel accomplished. Work also gives them a very good self image almost immediately. I have noticed that Cory behaves 10 times better when he has a job. If I had known that I would have sent him somewhere that had child labor when he was 7. LOL. Actually, I would have probably farmed him out to the tobacco fields around here as early as they would have taken him in the summers which is around 10 here. </p><p></p><p>I wouldnt worry about what DSS will do either. He will be much too old when he gets out for them to do much of anything. Most likely he will go to one of their local group homes. There is no way they will want to go to the work of doing any sort of transferring custody to another state because it takes time to do home studies in the other state, time to actually do all the paper work, time to do the actual transfers, time to arrange things...just lots of time involved. By the time they did all this, he would age out. Also, your mother would get the first go at him and they would have to investigate him...or actually his father would..and then your mom, then brother. By that time, he would be 18. They would have had him in Integrated Listening Systems (ILS) services all that time and wouldnt want to interrupt that just to send him somewhere for a month or two. Especially since the first goal of DSS foster care is reunification with the parent so they want to keep the child close enough to the parent to have family therapy. </p><p></p><p>No...he will either go to a Department of Juvenile Justice foster home, halfway house or DSS group home or therapeutic foster care home.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DammitJanet, post: 405609, member: 1514"] Well, we tried it all and the only thing that has half way worked is jail. That and a HUGE probation officer who scared the bejeebers out of Cory. The guy made two of Cory and could have snapped him in two without breaking a sweat...lol. If difficult child can get his diploma and at least get some kind of training post HS then maybe he has a chance. He needs to work at something. I think work will be a very important component as fast as you can get him into something. Dont hand him things like cars or cell phones. Make him work for things and earn them himself. He needs to feel accomplished. Work also gives them a very good self image almost immediately. I have noticed that Cory behaves 10 times better when he has a job. If I had known that I would have sent him somewhere that had child labor when he was 7. LOL. Actually, I would have probably farmed him out to the tobacco fields around here as early as they would have taken him in the summers which is around 10 here. I wouldnt worry about what DSS will do either. He will be much too old when he gets out for them to do much of anything. Most likely he will go to one of their local group homes. There is no way they will want to go to the work of doing any sort of transferring custody to another state because it takes time to do home studies in the other state, time to actually do all the paper work, time to do the actual transfers, time to arrange things...just lots of time involved. By the time they did all this, he would age out. Also, your mother would get the first go at him and they would have to investigate him...or actually his father would..and then your mom, then brother. By that time, he would be 18. They would have had him in Integrated Listening Systems (ILS) services all that time and wouldnt want to interrupt that just to send him somewhere for a month or two. Especially since the first goal of DSS foster care is reunification with the parent so they want to keep the child close enough to the parent to have family therapy. No...he will either go to a Department of Juvenile Justice foster home, halfway house or DSS group home or therapeutic foster care home. [/QUOTE]
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