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<blockquote data-quote="Blindsided" data-source="post: 754824" data-attributes="member: 23811"><p>For me it was realizing, finding out from other family members and my DCs friends that she manipulated me every time. I always thought I was helping her "get back on her feet" after this catastrophe or that one. My husband (who basically told me he couldn't live with me anymore if I didn't get it together, we have been together nearly 40 years), my best friend, my sister and my children finally convinced me that I had to start taking care of myself, because my dive into the abyss was hurting them! It was also when my Difficult Child had no empathy for the fact that every penny I made as a freelance writer to help in my retirement, went to her. She did not care, after all, if I really loved her, I would deplete my entire savings to support her poor choices. Realizing I was hurting her by not letting her suffer the consequences of her choices has been pivotal and believe me, there are times when I still would like to save her, but I I know that is trying to control something I can't control. Having this place to come visit with others about their journey helps keep me on the right path.</p><p></p><p>Love and light.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Blindsided, post: 754824, member: 23811"] For me it was realizing, finding out from other family members and my DCs friends that she manipulated me every time. I always thought I was helping her "get back on her feet" after this catastrophe or that one. My husband (who basically told me he couldn't live with me anymore if I didn't get it together, we have been together nearly 40 years), my best friend, my sister and my children finally convinced me that I had to start taking care of myself, because my dive into the abyss was hurting them! It was also when my Difficult Child had no empathy for the fact that every penny I made as a freelance writer to help in my retirement, went to her. She did not care, after all, if I really loved her, I would deplete my entire savings to support her poor choices. Realizing I was hurting her by not letting her suffer the consequences of her choices has been pivotal and believe me, there are times when I still would like to save her, but I I know that is trying to control something I can't control. Having this place to come visit with others about their journey helps keep me on the right path. Love and light. [/QUOTE]
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