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<blockquote data-quote="Triedntrue" data-source="post: 754880" data-attributes="member: 21499"><p>Thank you for asking this question. Looking through the responses gave me a needed boost. I think that even those of us who have been here awhile need that. Things that contributed to my bottom were the loss of a relationship with my other children. Repeated coaxing from my husband and friends. Realizing it will never stop as far as money is concerned unless i stop it. Realizing that although i love my son i don't trust him and i don't really want to be around him. I deserve to enjoy my retirement not give it away and if there is a small inheritance my other children are entitled to some. But perhaps the biggest thing is i am just tired. Through the encouragement and kindness of the people in this forum, a counselor my husband and friends i feel less and less guilty about this. Recently i talked with someone who has been in my sons place and he said to me you have done your due diligence its time to stop. I also pray a lot and it has gone from please get him out of this to please do what is best for him. I hope you are able to find what motivates you to stop enabling or help who is to stop. I think it is different for all of us. Prayers</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Triedntrue, post: 754880, member: 21499"] Thank you for asking this question. Looking through the responses gave me a needed boost. I think that even those of us who have been here awhile need that. Things that contributed to my bottom were the loss of a relationship with my other children. Repeated coaxing from my husband and friends. Realizing it will never stop as far as money is concerned unless i stop it. Realizing that although i love my son i don't trust him and i don't really want to be around him. I deserve to enjoy my retirement not give it away and if there is a small inheritance my other children are entitled to some. But perhaps the biggest thing is i am just tired. Through the encouragement and kindness of the people in this forum, a counselor my husband and friends i feel less and less guilty about this. Recently i talked with someone who has been in my sons place and he said to me you have done your due diligence its time to stop. I also pray a lot and it has gone from please get him out of this to please do what is best for him. I hope you are able to find what motivates you to stop enabling or help who is to stop. I think it is different for all of us. Prayers [/QUOTE]
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