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<blockquote data-quote="newstart" data-source="post: 754897" data-attributes="member: 22416"><p><em>Thank you DaisyC for this great question. My mother enabled my younger brother. I never saw any emotional growth in him each time I would visit. My mother made excuses for him and even asked me to pay his bills. She thought it was my duty to continue the enabling. My youngest brother is a handsome, fit, intelligent man that has won awards in math, but had been severely enabled. I also had the privilege of being around my husbands bipolar family and made my mind up that I will never be around another abusive person in my life. I went for therapy very early and set boundries but when the adult onset bipolar hit my daughter it was horrific. My breaking point was when my daughter stold a lot of money from me and was belligerent. When I blew her off for 3 months I got a deep down satisfied feeling that I did not have to put up with her nonsense... It was very hard too but it felt good and right.. NOTHING would have changed had I continued to enable and tolerate her horrific abuse.. Things are far from good but better and workable. The relationship still feels off balance.</em></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="newstart, post: 754897, member: 22416"] [I]Thank you DaisyC for this great question. My mother enabled my younger brother. I never saw any emotional growth in him each time I would visit. My mother made excuses for him and even asked me to pay his bills. She thought it was my duty to continue the enabling. My youngest brother is a handsome, fit, intelligent man that has won awards in math, but had been severely enabled. I also had the privilege of being around my husbands bipolar family and made my mind up that I will never be around another abusive person in my life. I went for therapy very early and set boundries but when the adult onset bipolar hit my daughter it was horrific. My breaking point was when my daughter stold a lot of money from me and was belligerent. When I blew her off for 3 months I got a deep down satisfied feeling that I did not have to put up with her nonsense... It was very hard too but it felt good and right.. NOTHING would have changed had I continued to enable and tolerate her horrific abuse.. Things are far from good but better and workable. The relationship still feels off balance.[/I] [/QUOTE]
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