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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 444622" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>Nichole does this too. Now that she's more aware of her moods/behaviors it can trigger if she's not careful......if she feels herself slipping she will call. I don't say much during those conversations....mostly guiding phrases to help her weed out her own feelings and come up with her own solutions. </p><p></p><p>When Nichole cuts, she's in bad shape. She doesn't cut for attention. She hides it. She cuts to express how she's feeling. And while I don't understand it.........she says it makes the pain she's feeling more "real", not sure what that means, and she feels somewhat better. I've literally spent years guiding her to other ways to express it so that cutting isnt' necessary. It helped. But she still feels the need to call. Anymore, like I said, I rarely say much. It's like she hasn't reached the point yet in confidence level to talk herself through it without checking to make sure her reasoning is ok.</p><p></p><p>As far as the suicide note........it may not have really been one at all. I've done a few of those "letter" in my past, they were in no way shape or form a suicide note, and they helped me work through or vent things I couldn't tell other people. Once it was out there, it was out and I felt better. I usually got rid of them, but I think my mom found one or two when I was young. So it's sort of hard to tell sometimes. He might even have been considering it, but once he wrote down his feelings......and got it out......changed his mind.</p><p></p><p>Males have a much harder time than females expressing themselves.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 444622, member: 84"] Nichole does this too. Now that she's more aware of her moods/behaviors it can trigger if she's not careful......if she feels herself slipping she will call. I don't say much during those conversations....mostly guiding phrases to help her weed out her own feelings and come up with her own solutions. When Nichole cuts, she's in bad shape. She doesn't cut for attention. She hides it. She cuts to express how she's feeling. And while I don't understand it.........she says it makes the pain she's feeling more "real", not sure what that means, and she feels somewhat better. I've literally spent years guiding her to other ways to express it so that cutting isnt' necessary. It helped. But she still feels the need to call. Anymore, like I said, I rarely say much. It's like she hasn't reached the point yet in confidence level to talk herself through it without checking to make sure her reasoning is ok. As far as the suicide note........it may not have really been one at all. I've done a few of those "letter" in my past, they were in no way shape or form a suicide note, and they helped me work through or vent things I couldn't tell other people. Once it was out there, it was out and I felt better. I usually got rid of them, but I think my mom found one or two when I was young. So it's sort of hard to tell sometimes. He might even have been considering it, but once he wrote down his feelings......and got it out......changed his mind. Males have a much harder time than females expressing themselves. [/QUOTE]
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