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<blockquote data-quote="DammitJanet" data-source="post: 403781" data-attributes="member: 1514"><p>Susie...that Child Abuse Registry is the thing I have talked about in the past when I have said I had abuse and neglect substantiated against me. It isnt the same thing as having a legal crime filed against you that you can actually fight in a court of law. Its a very iffy situation that is all up to the whim of a social worker. </p><p></p><p>I think...not absolutely certain that I have two neglects and one abuse substantiated against me. I can never foster children, never adopt any, never babysit and get paid through county funds, never work in a public day care. As if I wanted to...lol. But it I did, these "substantiated" reports would keep me from doing so.</p><p></p><p>None of them were accurate.</p><p></p><p>1st report. When Cory was 2.5 we moved to Greensboro NC in April. It was fairly warm at the time. He had a pretty bad case of metatarsal rotation and wore reverse last shoes. Per his doctors instructions in the city we had just moved from, he wore his shoes on three weeks and then off for one week. The week we were moving in happened to be the week he was off his shoes. With how bad his feet were, they didnt fit in any normal shoes. We simply kept him in thick socks when he was playing. He was only 2 at the time. </p><p></p><p>Well he was running from the house to the car as we were moving stuff inside and a nosey neighbor saw him outside without shoes. Called CPS because we had a toddler without shoes in April. Sigh. Here come the cops and CPS practically before we had boxes put away. Heck the beds were still not put up completely! I tried to explain but their eyes glassed over. Since I didnt have a local doctor yet and they refused to even call my doctor in Myrtle Beach. They wanted me to keep his shoes on all the time. I explained he did 3 weeks on and one week off. That wasnt good enough for them. Because I didnt magically appear with a doctor within 2 days of them being at my door...I was found to be neglecting him. Sigh.</p><p></p><p>Next one was the leaving him home alone at age 11 with Jamie during the summer when Jamie was 13. Jamie was old enough to babysit and we had a neighbor they could go to if needed. I worked literally 5 minutes away. Also they got me for educational neglect because he was starting wilderness camp 5 days after public school started and I didnt send him to school when it started. How dumb. Oh well.</p><p></p><p>The last one...which they got me for abuse was the most idiotic. No one can figure it out. </p><p></p><p>When we went to have Cory taken to the first psychiatric hospital after he had a ton of junk just happen almost in 3 days that just took the cake with the final straw being that Cory ran away from school and went to his cousins house, broke in, helped himself to a bunch of food, watched a ton of porno movies and then stole the aunts diamond earrings. AND DENIED IT while wearing the earrings! Tony had had it. This was after me finding him sitting at my table watching and reading porn while sitting in a pile of his own feces the day before. Yeah...not good. Tony just completely lost it. He went out...made Cory cut this tiny little switch and Tony whipped his butt. Maybe not the best idea but oh well..Mind you Cory was 12...almost 13. It was May I believe and he turns 13 in July. Well Cory does this spanking dance where he hops up and down while spinning in circles so one small mark got on his upper arm. Tiny mark...maybe a half inch scratch. </p><p></p><p>Cory told the doctors exactly what happened. His dad did it...he deserved it. He had done all these things. Well next thing you know, all these people are at my job questioning me and the allegations were that I had beat him with a two by four so badly that he had bruises up and down his body and almost broke his bones. Oh yeah right. Cory sure didnt say that. He had no bruises. He wasnt stripped naked to whip him so there werent even any welts. I wasnt even there when Tony did the whipping, I was at work! </p><p></p><p>It was a mess. But they wouldnt actually press charges so I could defend myself...Oh no. That would give me a leg to stand on and a way to prove they were wrong. They had all the power so they could decide all on their own whether they wanted to make a decision one way or the other. Its all up to them. </p><p></p><p>I dont trust what they say for anything. If someone is found guilty in court, thats one thing but in these so called DSS registry's...no way. I tried hard as a caseworker to get them to investigate people that I know without a shadow of a doubt were neglecting their kids because they were high while in my office but they came back saying the reports were unsubstantiated. Yeah. Okay. I had one woman slap her kid silly in my office but that was just fine to them. Okay. Whatever. </p><p></p><p>They arent worth the time it takes to call them.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DammitJanet, post: 403781, member: 1514"] Susie...that Child Abuse Registry is the thing I have talked about in the past when I have said I had abuse and neglect substantiated against me. It isnt the same thing as having a legal crime filed against you that you can actually fight in a court of law. Its a very iffy situation that is all up to the whim of a social worker. I think...not absolutely certain that I have two neglects and one abuse substantiated against me. I can never foster children, never adopt any, never babysit and get paid through county funds, never work in a public day care. As if I wanted to...lol. But it I did, these "substantiated" reports would keep me from doing so. None of them were accurate. 1st report. When Cory was 2.5 we moved to Greensboro NC in April. It was fairly warm at the time. He had a pretty bad case of metatarsal rotation and wore reverse last shoes. Per his doctors instructions in the city we had just moved from, he wore his shoes on three weeks and then off for one week. The week we were moving in happened to be the week he was off his shoes. With how bad his feet were, they didnt fit in any normal shoes. We simply kept him in thick socks when he was playing. He was only 2 at the time. Well he was running from the house to the car as we were moving stuff inside and a nosey neighbor saw him outside without shoes. Called CPS because we had a toddler without shoes in April. Sigh. Here come the cops and CPS practically before we had boxes put away. Heck the beds were still not put up completely! I tried to explain but their eyes glassed over. Since I didnt have a local doctor yet and they refused to even call my doctor in Myrtle Beach. They wanted me to keep his shoes on all the time. I explained he did 3 weeks on and one week off. That wasnt good enough for them. Because I didnt magically appear with a doctor within 2 days of them being at my door...I was found to be neglecting him. Sigh. Next one was the leaving him home alone at age 11 with Jamie during the summer when Jamie was 13. Jamie was old enough to babysit and we had a neighbor they could go to if needed. I worked literally 5 minutes away. Also they got me for educational neglect because he was starting wilderness camp 5 days after public school started and I didnt send him to school when it started. How dumb. Oh well. The last one...which they got me for abuse was the most idiotic. No one can figure it out. When we went to have Cory taken to the first psychiatric hospital after he had a ton of junk just happen almost in 3 days that just took the cake with the final straw being that Cory ran away from school and went to his cousins house, broke in, helped himself to a bunch of food, watched a ton of porno movies and then stole the aunts diamond earrings. AND DENIED IT while wearing the earrings! Tony had had it. This was after me finding him sitting at my table watching and reading porn while sitting in a pile of his own feces the day before. Yeah...not good. Tony just completely lost it. He went out...made Cory cut this tiny little switch and Tony whipped his butt. Maybe not the best idea but oh well..Mind you Cory was 12...almost 13. It was May I believe and he turns 13 in July. Well Cory does this spanking dance where he hops up and down while spinning in circles so one small mark got on his upper arm. Tiny mark...maybe a half inch scratch. Cory told the doctors exactly what happened. His dad did it...he deserved it. He had done all these things. Well next thing you know, all these people are at my job questioning me and the allegations were that I had beat him with a two by four so badly that he had bruises up and down his body and almost broke his bones. Oh yeah right. Cory sure didnt say that. He had no bruises. He wasnt stripped naked to whip him so there werent even any welts. I wasnt even there when Tony did the whipping, I was at work! It was a mess. But they wouldnt actually press charges so I could defend myself...Oh no. That would give me a leg to stand on and a way to prove they were wrong. They had all the power so they could decide all on their own whether they wanted to make a decision one way or the other. Its all up to them. I dont trust what they say for anything. If someone is found guilty in court, thats one thing but in these so called DSS registry's...no way. I tried hard as a caseworker to get them to investigate people that I know without a shadow of a doubt were neglecting their kids because they were high while in my office but they came back saying the reports were unsubstantiated. Yeah. Okay. I had one woman slap her kid silly in my office but that was just fine to them. Okay. Whatever. They arent worth the time it takes to call them. [/QUOTE]
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