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Reporting in on the effect of letting go and believing for the best. IT HELPED :O)
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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 606583" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>Kathy, I believe you stepping back and changing course is often as good as it gets. Sheesh, this is hard! I did (and do) that all the time................... I look at it like I'm sailing a ship and I have to constantly adjust because of winds, unexpected currents, storms, whatever, I am simply adjusting the sails for the difficult child seas ahead. Done. </p><p></p><p>Once my daughter lost her home, as you all know, I leaped into action taking care of everything. But, little by little I did less and less until I am down to doing virtually nothing now. </p><p></p><p>Yeah it is hard to step back and allow them to fail. </p><p></p><p>Is your daughter eligible for Social Security/Disability? That may be a way to have her have some income without your money. When I was involved with an org. which was part of NAMI, they told me that my difficult child was eligible for a lot, SS, housing, food stamps, education, smoking cessation, it was endless, I was shocked. I took her to apply, I practically did the paperwork for her, hung out in the clinic for 5 hours getting her "hooked up." After all of that, she never returned so all the resources were out the window. I worked harder then she did trying to get her life together. After a year of that and A LOT of money, I stopped helping her and she simply returned to the low level of life she lives at. All my help was literally for nothing. I can see that all clearly now, but when I was in it, I couldn't. </p><p></p><p>I agree with DDD, I hope she stays a state away.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 606583, member: 13542"] Kathy, I believe you stepping back and changing course is often as good as it gets. Sheesh, this is hard! I did (and do) that all the time................... I look at it like I'm sailing a ship and I have to constantly adjust because of winds, unexpected currents, storms, whatever, I am simply adjusting the sails for the difficult child seas ahead. Done. Once my daughter lost her home, as you all know, I leaped into action taking care of everything. But, little by little I did less and less until I am down to doing virtually nothing now. Yeah it is hard to step back and allow them to fail. Is your daughter eligible for Social Security/Disability? That may be a way to have her have some income without your money. When I was involved with an org. which was part of NAMI, they told me that my difficult child was eligible for a lot, SS, housing, food stamps, education, smoking cessation, it was endless, I was shocked. I took her to apply, I practically did the paperwork for her, hung out in the clinic for 5 hours getting her "hooked up." After all of that, she never returned so all the resources were out the window. I worked harder then she did trying to get her life together. After a year of that and A LOT of money, I stopped helping her and she simply returned to the low level of life she lives at. All my help was literally for nothing. I can see that all clearly now, but when I was in it, I couldn't. I agree with DDD, I hope she stays a state away. [/QUOTE]
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