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<blockquote data-quote="sunxstone" data-source="post: 434271" data-attributes="member: 8297"><p>WRAP is another name of for Families Forward, and it's through County Mental Health. We have a child coach who does one on one with difficult child, a WRAP facilitator who runs weekly meetings and difficult child goes to a Leadership Group once a week through their program with kids similiar to himself. </p><p> </p><p>TBS is Therapeutic Behavior Services, instituted by CPS after difficult child's latest (dismissed) account of abuse. There have been four in the last year. </p><p> </p><p>Our TBS supervisor was supposed to accompany us to this meeting today but called this morning to let us know she wouldn't be coming after all, and to reschedule for next week.</p><p> </p><p>We discussed with the therapist about the serious threats difficult child has been making against our lives, the cruelty to pets and wildlife in and around our home, and our concerns about his sister's safety when she comes to visit for the summer. His sister (the easy child) chose to stay behind with her dad after the divorce because she didn't feel safe with difficult child. We have several plans in place to protect her, but we can't supervise every second. </p><p> </p><p>We discussed our concerns with the following behaviors in the home: threatening our lives, hoarding, stealing, lying, yelling, hurting the animals, constant demands and sense of entitlement ("I hate you! You're ruining my life! You're lucky I don't have a knife right now! Can you take me to Game Stop?")</p><p> </p><p>We discussed the GI's finding that the encopresis and smearing is completely behavioral and what they could do to provide therapy and improvement in that area. Not much, we were told, besides the life skills which they provide in group, which he rarely participates in)</p><p> </p><p>We discussed and figured out that difficult child has a two month span with the bipolar before he peaks and drops again. </p><p> </p><p>We discussed our concerns that we cannot provide 24 hour supervision to keep him and us safe from himself, and that we felt he needs intensive therapy for the encopresis and violence.</p><p> </p><p>She expressed that we don't yet have difficult child on the right cocktail of medications yet, and suggested Abilify for the ADHD which will also help stabilize his mood more.</p><p> </p><p>We talked about a Life Skills group home setting for him instead of residential as it would be a better fit for his needs, which we agreed with, but more than likely we would have to take that step without the school's help because "he's doing fine and improving at school." We'd have to refuse their help and go through CPS or County Mental Health to take that step. </p><p> </p><p>We just lowered the dose of Trileptal about a week ago and we're all ready seeing an increase in his irritability level, so will look into raising that back where it was previously. </p><p> </p><p>She did say we were doing everything we could do. We explained we don't want him out of the home, but we may not have any choice as he refuses to cooperate with us, to try to get along with anyone in the family or care what he's putting us through on a daily basis. He just does not care to try to change his behaviors to make it easier on all of us, himself included.</p><p> </p><p>We're going to call and set up a meeting with all of the services involved (school, WRAP, TBS, possibly County Mental Health) next week so we can have another round table discussion on what's happening with us, with difficult child and with each of their programs. TBS is very concerned about what they are seeing in the home, as they have been here for over 40 hours in home with him, how we are handling things and how he responds. The threats are very concerning and our TBS coach sees it as a very large red flag. He's had over 10 years with working with kids like ours, and he says difficult child is just off the charts.. he's finding himself frustrated some days, and says difficult child just has this disconnect that his actions = consequences, and how his behavior affects others. One of the blessings we're counting is that if this trained professional, who is amazing at his job and is not giving up on difficult child is frustrated and not sure which path to take because none of them are working.. we don't feel so bad.. its *not* us. We're following every example and tip they can give us, and it's just not reaching him. I'm thankful for the services that are provided here, that other people are seeing the situation.. it's where we can go from here. Is a residential placement good for not only us, but for him as well, or will it make it worse?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="sunxstone, post: 434271, member: 8297"] WRAP is another name of for Families Forward, and it's through County Mental Health. We have a child coach who does one on one with difficult child, a WRAP facilitator who runs weekly meetings and difficult child goes to a Leadership Group once a week through their program with kids similiar to himself. TBS is Therapeutic Behavior Services, instituted by CPS after difficult child's latest (dismissed) account of abuse. There have been four in the last year. Our TBS supervisor was supposed to accompany us to this meeting today but called this morning to let us know she wouldn't be coming after all, and to reschedule for next week. We discussed with the therapist about the serious threats difficult child has been making against our lives, the cruelty to pets and wildlife in and around our home, and our concerns about his sister's safety when she comes to visit for the summer. His sister (the easy child) chose to stay behind with her dad after the divorce because she didn't feel safe with difficult child. We have several plans in place to protect her, but we can't supervise every second. We discussed our concerns with the following behaviors in the home: threatening our lives, hoarding, stealing, lying, yelling, hurting the animals, constant demands and sense of entitlement ("I hate you! You're ruining my life! You're lucky I don't have a knife right now! Can you take me to Game Stop?") We discussed the GI's finding that the encopresis and smearing is completely behavioral and what they could do to provide therapy and improvement in that area. Not much, we were told, besides the life skills which they provide in group, which he rarely participates in) We discussed and figured out that difficult child has a two month span with the bipolar before he peaks and drops again. We discussed our concerns that we cannot provide 24 hour supervision to keep him and us safe from himself, and that we felt he needs intensive therapy for the encopresis and violence. She expressed that we don't yet have difficult child on the right cocktail of medications yet, and suggested Abilify for the ADHD which will also help stabilize his mood more. We talked about a Life Skills group home setting for him instead of residential as it would be a better fit for his needs, which we agreed with, but more than likely we would have to take that step without the school's help because "he's doing fine and improving at school." We'd have to refuse their help and go through CPS or County Mental Health to take that step. We just lowered the dose of Trileptal about a week ago and we're all ready seeing an increase in his irritability level, so will look into raising that back where it was previously. She did say we were doing everything we could do. We explained we don't want him out of the home, but we may not have any choice as he refuses to cooperate with us, to try to get along with anyone in the family or care what he's putting us through on a daily basis. He just does not care to try to change his behaviors to make it easier on all of us, himself included. We're going to call and set up a meeting with all of the services involved (school, WRAP, TBS, possibly County Mental Health) next week so we can have another round table discussion on what's happening with us, with difficult child and with each of their programs. TBS is very concerned about what they are seeing in the home, as they have been here for over 40 hours in home with him, how we are handling things and how he responds. The threats are very concerning and our TBS coach sees it as a very large red flag. He's had over 10 years with working with kids like ours, and he says difficult child is just off the charts.. he's finding himself frustrated some days, and says difficult child just has this disconnect that his actions = consequences, and how his behavior affects others. One of the blessings we're counting is that if this trained professional, who is amazing at his job and is not giving up on difficult child is frustrated and not sure which path to take because none of them are working.. we don't feel so bad.. its *not* us. We're following every example and tip they can give us, and it's just not reaching him. I'm thankful for the services that are provided here, that other people are seeing the situation.. it's where we can go from here. Is a residential placement good for not only us, but for him as well, or will it make it worse? [/QUOTE]
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