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<blockquote data-quote="TerryJ2" data-source="post: 367842" data-attributes="member: 3419"><p>Hi Doddlin.</p><p>no, you are not a complainer or abnormally resentful.</p><p>You smelled a rat and now you need to expose it.</p><p>This woman is 21.</p><p>She is in the military.</p><p>She needs to grow up.</p><p>She can take a bullet but she can't write a thank you note? Get real.</p><p> </p><p>Sit down and calmly discuss the issue with-your husband. Alone.</p><p>Tell him that you apologize for not bringing it up sooner, but you needed time to think, to sort through the facts, to ensure that you resolve the issue and do not just complain. Tell him that you need his help on this issue because it affects you, him, your difficult children, and his daughter. More than anything, it affects your marriage.</p><p>Tell him that you are a team, and that you do not want him to get defensive. Again, this is a problem solving discussion.</p><p> </p><p>In my own family, when kids turn 21, they are out of the loop for automatic gift-giving. Now that we've been hit by a rough economy, it's 18. I told our daughter what my own family rule was and told her that if she would like to exchange gifts on birthdays and Christmas, etc., with-any other relatitves, it is now on her shoulders.</p><p>She was disappointed but she understood. </p><p>On one hand, she was excited to buy for 1 or 2 fave relatives, but she worried about her cash flow.</p><p>on the other hand, she tends to be forgetful ...</p><p> </p><p>I remind her ea time there is a holiday, that this is the rule.</p><p> </p><p>You and your husband need to come up with-something similar.</p><p> </p><p>I hope this helps.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TerryJ2, post: 367842, member: 3419"] Hi Doddlin. no, you are not a complainer or abnormally resentful. You smelled a rat and now you need to expose it. This woman is 21. She is in the military. She needs to grow up. She can take a bullet but she can't write a thank you note? Get real. Sit down and calmly discuss the issue with-your husband. Alone. Tell him that you apologize for not bringing it up sooner, but you needed time to think, to sort through the facts, to ensure that you resolve the issue and do not just complain. Tell him that you need his help on this issue because it affects you, him, your difficult children, and his daughter. More than anything, it affects your marriage. Tell him that you are a team, and that you do not want him to get defensive. Again, this is a problem solving discussion. In my own family, when kids turn 21, they are out of the loop for automatic gift-giving. Now that we've been hit by a rough economy, it's 18. I told our daughter what my own family rule was and told her that if she would like to exchange gifts on birthdays and Christmas, etc., with-any other relatitves, it is now on her shoulders. She was disappointed but she understood. On one hand, she was excited to buy for 1 or 2 fave relatives, but she worried about her cash flow. on the other hand, she tends to be forgetful ... I remind her ea time there is a holiday, that this is the rule. You and your husband need to come up with-something similar. I hope this helps. [/QUOTE]
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