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<blockquote data-quote="trinityroyal" data-source="post: 367851" data-attributes="member: 3907"><p>Doddlin, I agree with Terry. There's nothing wrong or unreasonable about your reactions to this.</p><p></p><p>I wonder...does your husband feel that he has to tiptoe around easy child lest the estrangement start up again? At any rate, regardless of husband's motivations, easy child is an adult and the relationship you have with her should be based on those lines. She should respect the fact that she is a visitor in your home, and you should treat her like the adult she is. Which means holding her accountable for her behaviour. </p><p></p><p>I think Terry's suggestions about a talk with husband are very good. Thing is, husband's relationship with his daughter is his responsibility. You need to step out of the middle of it as much as you can and deal with her on your own terms. If that means keeping your distance, then so be it. It must be awfully hard on your difficult children (both bio and step) to see her get special treatment and no discipline, while they're held to account. When I first came on the scene, my Step-D was very jealous of my relationship with husband and felt she was being displaced. Her behaviour was something appalling for quite a while. I didn't put up with it, and eventually my husband caught on and stopped spoiling her as well.</p><p></p><p>If your husband wants to throw her a special party, then that is his prerogative. I wouldn't put myself out too much for it. Especially for someone who seems entitled and spoilt. </p><p></p><p>Sending many hugs,</p><p>Trinity</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="trinityroyal, post: 367851, member: 3907"] Doddlin, I agree with Terry. There's nothing wrong or unreasonable about your reactions to this. I wonder...does your husband feel that he has to tiptoe around easy child lest the estrangement start up again? At any rate, regardless of husband's motivations, easy child is an adult and the relationship you have with her should be based on those lines. She should respect the fact that she is a visitor in your home, and you should treat her like the adult she is. Which means holding her accountable for her behaviour. I think Terry's suggestions about a talk with husband are very good. Thing is, husband's relationship with his daughter is his responsibility. You need to step out of the middle of it as much as you can and deal with her on your own terms. If that means keeping your distance, then so be it. It must be awfully hard on your difficult children (both bio and step) to see her get special treatment and no discipline, while they're held to account. When I first came on the scene, my Step-D was very jealous of my relationship with husband and felt she was being displaced. Her behaviour was something appalling for quite a while. I didn't put up with it, and eventually my husband caught on and stopped spoiling her as well. If your husband wants to throw her a special party, then that is his prerogative. I wouldn't put myself out too much for it. Especially for someone who seems entitled and spoilt. Sending many hugs, Trinity [/QUOTE]
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