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<blockquote data-quote="Ktllc" data-source="post: 560506" data-attributes="member: 11847"><p>I think therapists have lots of suggestions and there theoritically all pretty good.</p><p>In real life, some are unusuable or counterproductive depending on the child.</p><p>When a therapist suggest a new idea, I make a point to try it. Usually, I can tell pretty quick if it works or not. </p><p>V does not have meltdowns anymore, but Sweet Pea sure does! And believe me, it is well beyond a 2 year old tantrum. </p><p>I put her in her room and close the door. I usually wait until she is calmed down or, at least, not a complete fury.</p><p>Which means, sometimes I open the door before she is done crying and screaming but I make sure the throwing, head banging and hitting is over with.</p><p>Basically, I "feel" the emotions.</p><p>Then, I ask her if she is done. She then nodds yes or no (she is essentially non verbal). If she says no, I close the door and give her more time.</p><p>Once she is done, she has to sign sorry. If she does not, the door is closed again. I ask her several times to say sorry before closing the door. It is not unsual to ask her 3 or 4 times before she will sign sorry.</p><p>Then I explain that screaming, hitting or whatever is not acceptable, give her a hug and ask her to clean up what she threw around. She loves to clean up, so this part is not an issue with her <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p><p>For V, the key used to remove him from overstimulation. His room is in the basement, so I would send him downstairs and would tell him to come back when he is calmed down, ready to follow the rules of the house. I used to have to carry him over there, but now he goes on his own but protest verbally. It has been baby steps with V, but looking back I can't believe how much progress he has made. I used to deal with about 10 tantrums a day with him.</p><p>So keep up the good work! You will find something that works with your daughter, gotta keep an open mind and trying.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Ktllc, post: 560506, member: 11847"] I think therapists have lots of suggestions and there theoritically all pretty good. In real life, some are unusuable or counterproductive depending on the child. When a therapist suggest a new idea, I make a point to try it. Usually, I can tell pretty quick if it works or not. V does not have meltdowns anymore, but Sweet Pea sure does! And believe me, it is well beyond a 2 year old tantrum. I put her in her room and close the door. I usually wait until she is calmed down or, at least, not a complete fury. Which means, sometimes I open the door before she is done crying and screaming but I make sure the throwing, head banging and hitting is over with. Basically, I "feel" the emotions. Then, I ask her if she is done. She then nodds yes or no (she is essentially non verbal). If she says no, I close the door and give her more time. Once she is done, she has to sign sorry. If she does not, the door is closed again. I ask her several times to say sorry before closing the door. It is not unsual to ask her 3 or 4 times before she will sign sorry. Then I explain that screaming, hitting or whatever is not acceptable, give her a hug and ask her to clean up what she threw around. She loves to clean up, so this part is not an issue with her :) For V, the key used to remove him from overstimulation. His room is in the basement, so I would send him downstairs and would tell him to come back when he is calmed down, ready to follow the rules of the house. I used to have to carry him over there, but now he goes on his own but protest verbally. It has been baby steps with V, but looking back I can't believe how much progress he has made. I used to deal with about 10 tantrums a day with him. So keep up the good work! You will find something that works with your daughter, gotta keep an open mind and trying. [/QUOTE]
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