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JJJ-  Yes, easy child is learning that it's okay to be mean and violent to people you love.  He used to have a problem with hitting, well, kinda still does, but not with kids as much now.  He's not known anything else!  I see him now pretending to be angry and mean for no reason, because he sees difficult child like that so often. 


I have had revelations where I find that difficult child can control behaviors, but doesn't want to.  I have tried to not think in that vein, tried to see where it's something he cannot control, but there are times that I just can't get around the thought that he is intentionally doing things.  His bullying is so calm and collected and taunting... it's only short rages in between the actual bullying.  (Like... he'll take something of mine from in front of me and quietly sit right in front of me, giving me superior looks of satisifaction, smiling cruelly, while breaking it.)  Those times he may not be in his right mind, but he isn't in an uncontrollable rage.  He wasn't in a rage when he said he was going to say I hurt him, or when he was scratching himself.  His eyes were ablaze with superiority and hatred when he was doing it.


Yes, he is absolutely targeting me when there are no other adults.  Almost every time now.


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