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Revisiting my thoughts on Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD)
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<blockquote data-quote="InsaneCdn" data-source="post: 569021" data-attributes="member: 11791"><p>That's the thing with attachment issues (the whole spectrum of them... not just Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD)).</p><p></p><p>At school, there are no "caring relationships". Teachers and other staff have a job to do - and difficult child has his part of the job to do (whether he does it or not). But, in real life, their "care" stops at the proverbial door. Everybody knows their part of the "dance" of relationships at school. No one from school is going to put their life and family on the line to help this kind of kid. (Not that teachers don't go "above and beyond" in trying to help troubled kids... just that for every teacher, there is a "limit", as there should be.)</p><p>At home... these are the "real" relationships, the kind of relationships that he is impaired in dealing with... perhaps these "real" relationships scare him. I don't know - I've never been in his shoes. But... attachment issues are not easy to deal with, even in ideal circumstances. </p><p></p><p>On one hand, he is still young - it's not like he's in HS. In theory, it may be possible to reach him... some kids can be reached.</p><p>On the other hand... easy child is in the picture. And there is no guaranteed outcome for difficult child, even IF you were to get the best possible help immediately (and have husband fully on side and bio-mom cooperating...)</p><p></p><p>I don't have answers for you - just caring {{hugs}}</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="InsaneCdn, post: 569021, member: 11791"] That's the thing with attachment issues (the whole spectrum of them... not just Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD)). At school, there are no "caring relationships". Teachers and other staff have a job to do - and difficult child has his part of the job to do (whether he does it or not). But, in real life, their "care" stops at the proverbial door. Everybody knows their part of the "dance" of relationships at school. No one from school is going to put their life and family on the line to help this kind of kid. (Not that teachers don't go "above and beyond" in trying to help troubled kids... just that for every teacher, there is a "limit", as there should be.) At home... these are the "real" relationships, the kind of relationships that he is impaired in dealing with... perhaps these "real" relationships scare him. I don't know - I've never been in his shoes. But... attachment issues are not easy to deal with, even in ideal circumstances. On one hand, he is still young - it's not like he's in HS. In theory, it may be possible to reach him... some kids can be reached. On the other hand... easy child is in the picture. And there is no guaranteed outcome for difficult child, even IF you were to get the best possible help immediately (and have husband fully on side and bio-mom cooperating...) I don't have answers for you - just caring {{hugs}} [/QUOTE]
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