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<blockquote data-quote="toughlovin" data-source="post: 525320"><p>There are people who return from the depths of serious drug use.... I am sure you have met some along the way via the sober houses, recovery community. I have met a couple of people that I got to know well through my work and they do give me hope.... however like you I have no idea if my difficult child will be one of those who decides he can't do this anymore. I have to keep reminding myself we have done all we can, given him lots of opportunities and the only way it will happen now is if he decides to do it. And yeah they ended up in the same place which is so frustrating.... but that is better than feeling as i did for a long time, that I somehow could have done something differently to prevent this nightmare.</p><p></p><p>I do think you might need to stop looking at her emails etc..... it is not helping you and there is nothing you can do to help her at this point. Check her phone records if you can to reassure yourself she is alive and don't do any more. Give yourself a break....you need it.</p><p></p><p>My conversation with my difficult child yesterday left me feeling kind of angry too. I mean I fought my worry but I was worried that he was lying in a gutter somewhere dying all alone... but no he was doing whatever he was doing with no thought whatsover about getting in touch with us to let us know he is ok. He doesn't think about us... yes he called me back but I think he was hoping I would offer him something!! My husband talked to him about taxes and when he asked him how he was doing difficult child hung up on him. It is like he is angry at us for him being in the situation he is in.... like we should just keep paying for him to screw around, use drugs and party and not work??? I mean honestly it just bugs me when I think about it. LOL I guess I could just start venting here....</p><p></p><p>TL</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="toughlovin, post: 525320"] There are people who return from the depths of serious drug use.... I am sure you have met some along the way via the sober houses, recovery community. I have met a couple of people that I got to know well through my work and they do give me hope.... however like you I have no idea if my difficult child will be one of those who decides he can't do this anymore. I have to keep reminding myself we have done all we can, given him lots of opportunities and the only way it will happen now is if he decides to do it. And yeah they ended up in the same place which is so frustrating.... but that is better than feeling as i did for a long time, that I somehow could have done something differently to prevent this nightmare. I do think you might need to stop looking at her emails etc..... it is not helping you and there is nothing you can do to help her at this point. Check her phone records if you can to reassure yourself she is alive and don't do any more. Give yourself a break....you need it. My conversation with my difficult child yesterday left me feeling kind of angry too. I mean I fought my worry but I was worried that he was lying in a gutter somewhere dying all alone... but no he was doing whatever he was doing with no thought whatsover about getting in touch with us to let us know he is ok. He doesn't think about us... yes he called me back but I think he was hoping I would offer him something!! My husband talked to him about taxes and when he asked him how he was doing difficult child hung up on him. It is like he is angry at us for him being in the situation he is in.... like we should just keep paying for him to screw around, use drugs and party and not work??? I mean honestly it just bugs me when I think about it. LOL I guess I could just start venting here.... TL [/QUOTE]
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