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<blockquote data-quote="rejectedmom" data-source="post: 525440" data-attributes="member: 2315"><p>TL, twenty-thirty years ago I am not sure there were many statistical studies available on how adopted kids turned out. I do know that I didn't read up all that much. I knew that there was a possibility my easy child/difficult child might be schizophrenic and I read a up on that and I read up on mental retardation and dyslexia but honestly before the internet, information was hard to come by. And I do not think that in my idealistic twenties and thirties I would have been much swayed from my beliefs that nurture would win out. I was 47 when I adopted difficult child#2. I really had misgivings about it but he had been in my home for over a year and husband was very attached to him. He campaigned hard for me to adopt our son and I agreed knowing that he might be retarded. I didn't ever anticipate what would happen it was not even on my radar. But if I had the information that is available now, I might have been more cautious and left difficult child for someone else to raise. My thought process at 60 is very different than it was when I was younger so I cannot say that for certain.</p><p></p><p>I do find I avoid discussions of adoption now when a young person expresses intrest in it. I have become biased against it. especiall for young couples who just want a normal parenting experience and a family life. I think that with the availability of birth control and abortion the children available are from a compromised gene pool. It is not good girls getting caught up anymore. It is mothers and fathers who are more likely than not to have mental health problems and addictions. I do not believe the odds are stacked in the favor of a happy outcome anymore. This is my own theory from observation and anecdotal readings not anything I have researched thouroughly. -RM</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="rejectedmom, post: 525440, member: 2315"] TL, twenty-thirty years ago I am not sure there were many statistical studies available on how adopted kids turned out. I do know that I didn't read up all that much. I knew that there was a possibility my easy child/difficult child might be schizophrenic and I read a up on that and I read up on mental retardation and dyslexia but honestly before the internet, information was hard to come by. And I do not think that in my idealistic twenties and thirties I would have been much swayed from my beliefs that nurture would win out. I was 47 when I adopted difficult child#2. I really had misgivings about it but he had been in my home for over a year and husband was very attached to him. He campaigned hard for me to adopt our son and I agreed knowing that he might be retarded. I didn't ever anticipate what would happen it was not even on my radar. But if I had the information that is available now, I might have been more cautious and left difficult child for someone else to raise. My thought process at 60 is very different than it was when I was younger so I cannot say that for certain. I do find I avoid discussions of adoption now when a young person expresses intrest in it. I have become biased against it. especiall for young couples who just want a normal parenting experience and a family life. I think that with the availability of birth control and abortion the children available are from a compromised gene pool. It is not good girls getting caught up anymore. It is mothers and fathers who are more likely than not to have mental health problems and addictions. I do not believe the odds are stacked in the favor of a happy outcome anymore. This is my own theory from observation and anecdotal readings not anything I have researched thouroughly. -RM [/QUOTE]
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