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<blockquote data-quote="buddy" data-source="post: 573245" data-attributes="member: 12886"><p>I admit your posts make me smile some....not about the struggle part! I get that's hard!</p><p>But the things you say trigger memories and the good news is that as ic said, there are great methods for working with this kind of a thinker. Embracing the need for order with planned/prepped practices to learn some flexibility works wonders. Rules are very black and white. So if accidents are not one's fault then it makes no sense to be "punished" lol. The concept of just doing it because it's kind and helpful goes beyond his rule base right now. Still good news though, because knowing he needs direct teaching about rules and manners means he will get to learn the skills with your support. He sounds bright and inquisitive so he will probably do well. For now help them both by putting pictures of which clothes go where and then the "rule" is clear to both. Is your son pretty visual? Adding little social stories that describe what happens when.... can be super useful. Look up social stories (will be on lots of Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) sites but works well for any child who needs direct teaching about subtle things other kids pick up just by being around models. ) </p><p>Id really suggest you look at parenting and helpful books about Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) even if he is not because many of the challenges you face are relate-able to those of us who have or teach kids on the spectrum. The label doesn't matter, finding ways of supporting his learning and thinking style is what will help you feel more successful and empowered. Parents who have kids who respond to typical parenting methods just don't get it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="buddy, post: 573245, member: 12886"] I admit your posts make me smile some....not about the struggle part! I get that's hard! But the things you say trigger memories and the good news is that as ic said, there are great methods for working with this kind of a thinker. Embracing the need for order with planned/prepped practices to learn some flexibility works wonders. Rules are very black and white. So if accidents are not one's fault then it makes no sense to be "punished" lol. The concept of just doing it because it's kind and helpful goes beyond his rule base right now. Still good news though, because knowing he needs direct teaching about rules and manners means he will get to learn the skills with your support. He sounds bright and inquisitive so he will probably do well. For now help them both by putting pictures of which clothes go where and then the "rule" is clear to both. Is your son pretty visual? Adding little social stories that describe what happens when.... can be super useful. Look up social stories (will be on lots of Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) sites but works well for any child who needs direct teaching about subtle things other kids pick up just by being around models. ) Id really suggest you look at parenting and helpful books about Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) even if he is not because many of the challenges you face are relate-able to those of us who have or teach kids on the spectrum. The label doesn't matter, finding ways of supporting his learning and thinking style is what will help you feel more successful and empowered. Parents who have kids who respond to typical parenting methods just don't get it. [/QUOTE]
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