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<blockquote data-quote="DDD" data-source="post: 545414" data-attributes="member: 35"><p>Welcome. Based on my experience parenting too many teens I completely understand that you and your husband are trying to help him structure his life successfully. on the other hand, sigh, you are at the beginning of a parenting mine field. in my humble opinion nobody can give you suggestions that are likely to work for your family. </p><p></p><p>Historically my brother, two sisters and I all went to college in the 1950/1960 era. We came from a structured, religious, fun loving environment. None of us were given a curfew. We all turned out aok. We did, however, give an approximate time when we expected to get home and called our Mom if there was a change of plans. Some of us were A students and high achievers and some of us were party people...each of us evolved into adults.</p><p></p><p>When my children went to college there were NO restrictions at the dorms or the sorority houses. They had TOTAL freedom and some of them made good choices while others didn't. The ADHD kids, by the way, stopped taking their medications. Most of them are easy child adults raising easy child children.</p><p></p><p>Parents have next to no control once the kids go off to school. I think it is a learning process for the teens that should begin at home before they are in a new environment. My personality makes it difficult for me to give up structure, power or control. It was difficult but for my family it was best that I adapted before they headed out of town. Good luck. DDD</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DDD, post: 545414, member: 35"] Welcome. Based on my experience parenting too many teens I completely understand that you and your husband are trying to help him structure his life successfully. on the other hand, sigh, you are at the beginning of a parenting mine field. in my humble opinion nobody can give you suggestions that are likely to work for your family. Historically my brother, two sisters and I all went to college in the 1950/1960 era. We came from a structured, religious, fun loving environment. None of us were given a curfew. We all turned out aok. We did, however, give an approximate time when we expected to get home and called our Mom if there was a change of plans. Some of us were A students and high achievers and some of us were party people...each of us evolved into adults. When my children went to college there were NO restrictions at the dorms or the sorority houses. They had TOTAL freedom and some of them made good choices while others didn't. The ADHD kids, by the way, stopped taking their medications. Most of them are easy child adults raising easy child children. Parents have next to no control once the kids go off to school. I think it is a learning process for the teens that should begin at home before they are in a new environment. My personality makes it difficult for me to give up structure, power or control. It was difficult but for my family it was best that I adapted before they headed out of town. Good luck. DDD [/QUOTE]
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