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<blockquote data-quote="Signorina" data-source="post: 545424"><p>Allan, I don't know you and I am sure you mean well - but I totally and emphatically disagree. Parents have the right to decide how to live in their own home. We don't give up our own adulthood because our child are reaching the age of maturity. I was willing to give up some sleep until 2am on the weekends and 12 on the weeknights so that my kid could be out and about. But I have a life too and a job. I will worry if they don't come home, and I have the right to get some undisturbed sleep in my own home and bed. So do my difficult child's younger brothers. And the emphasis is on the "difficult child"- these are kids who have issues and those issues=more reason to worry.</p><p></p><p>I learned - from a very wise group of moms here - that placating my nearly adult son translated into handing him the control in our house. I thought i was meeting him halfway, he thought I was falling in line. It can be a collaborative effort when they are independent, but turning 18 doesn't give them the rights to have an equal vote in the patterns of the family lifestyle.</p><p></p><p>Maybe I am old school. But it ain't happening here.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Signorina, post: 545424"] Allan, I don't know you and I am sure you mean well - but I totally and emphatically disagree. Parents have the right to decide how to live in their own home. We don't give up our own adulthood because our child are reaching the age of maturity. I was willing to give up some sleep until 2am on the weekends and 12 on the weeknights so that my kid could be out and about. But I have a life too and a job. I will worry if they don't come home, and I have the right to get some undisturbed sleep in my own home and bed. So do my difficult child's younger brothers. And the emphasis is on the "difficult child"- these are kids who have issues and those issues=more reason to worry. I learned - from a very wise group of moms here - that placating my nearly adult son translated into handing him the control in our house. I thought i was meeting him halfway, he thought I was falling in line. It can be a collaborative effort when they are independent, but turning 18 doesn't give them the rights to have an equal vote in the patterns of the family lifestyle. Maybe I am old school. But it ain't happening here. [/QUOTE]
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