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Thanks so much for the replies :) It really is nice to vent/talk/get ideas without judgement.


I guess I need to clarify - my son is not running away because he is overwhelmed or anything. He just doesn't want an aid. So he's trying to hide from the poor guy doing his job. That's the frustrating part. He doesn't need a space to get away to.


We use Dr. Greene's methods from "The Explosive Child" and talk through issues. We used to ground (which is how I know that doesn't work with him) and we do generally let the school handle 100% of the school issues. We do as much Plan B work as we can. I'm just getting so tired of having to revisit this ONE issue all the time. 


I do not feel that my son is bullied. If kids know making a face will get someone to do something silly, they will. Not right - they need to stop. And he is working to ignore, but I do not feel that is bullying. The school has been WONDERFUL about addressing it when its happened though to work on stopping outside influences from triggering him and hurting his progress. I'm happy with that.


We did sit down and do another round of Plan B drilling and he shared some new issues he's feeling about the aid. Turns out, he's worried about NEXT YEAR in middle school and what that will look like. So he's trying to just get rid of the guy now. Which, is not an option. We talked about it being like a body guard (which was a great suggestion a friend made) and why its important he is there FOR NOW. I also explained/reminded that he won't be there forever. Just until son can get the skills needed to not need the guy. I'm sure we have 1 more school year with him, but based on progress reports,


I have two advocates and they have both been present every step of the way for the IEP process (its too overwhelming for any parent to go alone in my opinion). They both have torn through this along with a Special Education lawyer (I was covering bases like mad...we were almost expelled for son's behavior so I wanted this SOLID). Its set up well.


Its just getting my son to accept it that's been hard. He hears IEP or special education and immediately just feels embarrassed and ashamed. And tries to then hide from the guy to get out of it...its frustrating.


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