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<blockquote data-quote="InsaneCdn" data-source="post: 456675" data-attributes="member: 11791"><p>Therapy doesn't necessarily help - at least, it had no impact on that "detached" feeling, for me. Huge help for other things - depression, anxiety, etc. - so its not like I don't support "therapy" as an option.</p><p></p><p>But - I know what you mean.</p><p>So much of friendship depends on maintaining an artificial connection - and I just don't have the time or the energy to do that.</p><p>Because there never really was a strong attachment to family, the situation there is even worse... maintain distance to avoid hurt.</p><p>When times get really tough because of difficult child, then husband has to get me re-attached to OUR family, or I "get lost" in my own world.</p><p></p><p>My last therapist said that I probably won't get past it for as long as my parents are alive... only when the danger of hurt has past will I feel free to explore non-nuclear-family relationships.</p><p></p><p>But... having connected a little with people on this board, there are days when i wonder if half the problem is just that I never end up finding the right people HERE to connect with - nobody understands when your life shuts down at 6:30 p.m., or you can't afford to go out for ice cream or coffee every week. It might be three weeks before I can get back to you... and you're wanting to talk about your daughter's stagette right now.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="InsaneCdn, post: 456675, member: 11791"] Therapy doesn't necessarily help - at least, it had no impact on that "detached" feeling, for me. Huge help for other things - depression, anxiety, etc. - so its not like I don't support "therapy" as an option. But - I know what you mean. So much of friendship depends on maintaining an artificial connection - and I just don't have the time or the energy to do that. Because there never really was a strong attachment to family, the situation there is even worse... maintain distance to avoid hurt. When times get really tough because of difficult child, then husband has to get me re-attached to OUR family, or I "get lost" in my own world. My last therapist said that I probably won't get past it for as long as my parents are alive... only when the danger of hurt has past will I feel free to explore non-nuclear-family relationships. But... having connected a little with people on this board, there are days when i wonder if half the problem is just that I never end up finding the right people HERE to connect with - nobody understands when your life shuts down at 6:30 p.m., or you can't afford to go out for ice cream or coffee every week. It might be three weeks before I can get back to you... and you're wanting to talk about your daughter's stagette right now. [/QUOTE]
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